Comments on: 31 Year Old Virgin http://docinthebiz.com/blog/31-year-old-virgin/ THINK WELL to FEEL WELL...It's All About Being Emotionally Healthy! Tue, 06 Jan 2009 05:56:52 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Dr. KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/31-year-old-virgin/#comment-6090 Dr. KC Sun, 02 Nov 2008 16:21:29 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=75#comment-6090 Dear Women Healthy Tips, Yes, every person (man or woman) must make these important decisions for him/herself. Thank you for your comment. All my best, Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear Women Healthy Tips,

Yes, every person (man or woman) must make these important decisions for him/herself.
Thank you for your comment.

All my best,
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

]]> By: Dr. KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/31-year-old-virgin/#comment-6089 Dr. KC Sun, 02 Nov 2008 16:21:06 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=75#comment-6089 Dear Hisham, Everyone has their opinion of what is right or wrong, but at the end of the day, every person must make the decision(s) with which they themselves can live. It's important that each person be comfortable and happy with the choices they make. Thank you for your comment! It's always great to hear from you! All my best, Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear Hisham,

Everyone has their opinion of what is right or wrong, but at the end of the day, every person must make the decision(s) with which they themselves can live. It’s important that each person be comfortable and happy with the choices they make.

Thank you for your comment! It’s always great to hear from you!
All my best,
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

]]> By: Women Healthy Tips http://docinthebiz.com/blog/31-year-old-virgin/#comment-5991 Women Healthy Tips Thu, 30 Oct 2008 04:34:27 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=75#comment-5991 First i agree with you Dok...but we have to decide by myself First i agree with you Dok…but we have to decide by myself

]]> By: Hisham http://docinthebiz.com/blog/31-year-old-virgin/#comment-5915 Hisham Mon, 27 Oct 2008 08:50:20 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=75#comment-5915 First of all I agree with your answer, but I would like to say that the question it self sounds weird, it should be reversed, like the old days.. when women was more concerned about their virginity! In the case of the one who asked this question, I think there is nothing to worry about, she is in a very good condition, I think she better get married with the lucky person. First of all I agree with your answer, but I would like to say that the question it self sounds weird, it should be reversed, like the old days.. when women was more concerned about their virginity!

In the case of the one who asked this question, I think there is nothing to worry about, she is in a very good condition, I think she better get married with the lucky person.

]]> By: Dr. KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/31-year-old-virgin/#comment-5168 Dr. KC Wed, 15 Oct 2008 23:40:18 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=75#comment-5168 Dear VV, I could not agree with you more. Thank you so much for your comment. All my best, Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear VV,

I could not agree with you more. Thank you so much for your comment.

All my best,
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

]]> By: VV http://docinthebiz.com/blog/31-year-old-virgin/#comment-5120 VV Wed, 15 Oct 2008 06:42:08 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=75#comment-5120 Free world to make your own choice. What an honour to be chosen as that special guy. Free world to make your own choice. What an honour to be chosen as that special guy.

]]> By: Dr. KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/31-year-old-virgin/#comment-4939 Dr. KC Sun, 12 Oct 2008 16:31:22 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=75#comment-4939 Dear Clinically Clueless, I’m thrilled that you did what you felt was best for you both (your husband and yourself) and you have nothing that you regret, but to the controversy, feel good about doing! You’re correct, in my opinion, that the people with whom you surround yourself, often have a great way of pressuring and persuading. That is why it is important to be in the company of those who are a good influence, especially if one is not strong enough to stick to their own convictions and can be persuaded by others, only to leave feeling badly about the decisions they were “talked” into doing. I believe that it takes a certain kind of self esteem and strength to do what you did and to stand by what you believe. I give you great kudos for that! Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I’m so happy to see you writing here! All my best, Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear Clinically Clueless,

I’m thrilled that you did what you felt was best for you both (your husband and yourself) and you have nothing that you regret, but to the controversy, feel good about doing!

You’re correct, in my opinion, that the people with whom you surround yourself, often have a great way of pressuring and persuading. That is why it is important to be in the company of those who are a good influence, especially if one is not strong enough to stick to their own convictions and can be persuaded by others, only to leave feeling badly about the decisions they were “talked” into doing.

I believe that it takes a certain kind of self esteem and strength to do what you did and to stand by what you believe. I give you great kudos for that!

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I’m so happy to see you writing here!

All my best,
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

]]> By: ClinicallyClueless http://docinthebiz.com/blog/31-year-old-virgin/#comment-4903 ClinicallyClueless Sun, 12 Oct 2008 00:32:01 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=75#comment-4903 For religious reasons and trust issues, I waited until I was married at the age of 31. Boy, was the year long engagement tough. We had to keep pushing the line further and further back until I think we could hold hands only and kiss goodbye. But, we waited until our second night together…too tired the wedding night!!! We are both proud of keeping to our convictions. But, my husband and I were talking about this question and we both agreed that it actually is a turn on for some guys because they are the first and hopefully only. So, there are no comparisons to deal with. I'm not suggesting that you do it my way, but to me it is not unusual...people just don't talk about it and the media portrays it as that you are defective if you haven't had sex yet. However, there could also, as stated above, be other underlying issues like with me that may need to be explored in therapy. If you hang around people who are "religious" (which I do not consider myself), you won't feel the pressure. However, you should note that premarital sex and sexual promiscuity has about the same rate as in the general population...it just is not talked about and that is a whole other issue. For religious reasons and trust issues, I waited until I was married at the age of 31. Boy, was the year long engagement tough. We had to keep pushing the line further and further back until I think we could hold hands only and kiss goodbye. But, we waited until our second night together…too tired the wedding night!!! We are both proud of keeping to our convictions.

But, my husband and I were talking about this question and we both agreed that it actually is a turn on for some guys because they are the first and hopefully only. So, there are no comparisons to deal with. I’m not suggesting that you do it my way, but to me it is not unusual…people just don’t talk about it and the media portrays it as that you are defective if you haven’t had sex yet. However, there could also, as stated above, be other underlying issues like with me that may need to be explored in therapy.

If you hang around people who are “religious” (which I do not consider myself), you won’t feel the pressure. However, you should note that premarital sex and sexual promiscuity has about the same rate as in the general population…it just is not talked about and that is a whole other issue.

]]> By: Dr. KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/31-year-old-virgin/#comment-4678 Dr. KC Wed, 08 Oct 2008 16:15:15 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=75#comment-4678 Dear Jennifer, Thank you for your comment. Everyone is so unique and individual and those that do not feel the need to go with the general “population” when it comes to the decisions they make for themselves, as long as they are healthy decisions, are wonderful. So, it is not a question about whether your statement here is “popular” or not. It is beautiful that you can be so open about how you feel and there will of course be those who do and do not agree. Every one will always have their opinions. We know that. Thank you for sharing yours!! All my best, Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear Jennifer,

Thank you for your comment. Everyone is so unique and individual and those that do not feel the need to go with the general “population” when it comes to the decisions they make for themselves, as long as they are healthy decisions, are wonderful.

So, it is not a question about whether your statement here is “popular” or not. It is beautiful that you can be so open about how you feel and there will of course be those who do and do not agree. Every one will always have their opinions. We know that. Thank you for sharing yours!!

All my best,

Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

]]> By: Dr. KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/31-year-old-virgin/#comment-4677 Dr. KC Wed, 08 Oct 2008 16:14:21 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=75#comment-4677 Hi Jason P., I don’t read your words as “disagreement”. They are YOUR thoughts and feelings and they mean a lot. As for men AND women, I agree that everyone has to do what makes them feel the most comfortable with themselves. We don’t want to live in regret for doing things due to feeling pressured or because we think it’s the right thing to do, when deep inside, we know it is NOT right for us. Thank you for your honesty and please know that all the decisions regarding your sexuality were the right ones for you! Don’t live in regret and be proud of your values and don’t waiver on your beliefs. I’m so happy to have you here to share with my readers. I’m sure there are many people out there reading this with the same beliefs that you have, and you without even knowing it, are helping them to feel comfortable with the decisions they make for their lives. All my best, Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Hi Jason P.,

I don’t read your words as “disagreement”. They are YOUR thoughts and feelings and they mean a lot. As for men AND women, I agree that everyone has to do what makes them feel the most comfortable with themselves. We don’t want to live in regret for doing things due to feeling pressured or because we think it’s the right thing to do, when deep inside, we know it is NOT right for us.

Thank you for your honesty and please know that all the decisions regarding your sexuality were the right ones for you! Don’t live in regret and be proud of your values and don’t waiver on your beliefs.

I’m so happy to have you here to share with my readers. I’m sure there are many people out there reading this with the same beliefs that you have, and you without even knowing it, are helping them to feel comfortable with the decisions they make for their lives.

All my best,
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

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