Comments on: Behavior Labeling http://docinthebiz.com/blog/behavior-labeling/ THINK WELL to FEEL WELL...It's All About Being Emotionally Healthy! Fri, 30 Jul 2010 14:10:34 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Doc KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/behavior-labeling/#comment-8344 Doc KC Sat, 10 Jan 2009 01:49:34 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=93#comment-8344 Dear Health Nut, Thank you for writing. Let's celebrate those that help our children become their best every day! Those that can see past a child's behavior to figure out the reasoning behind what they do. Hopefully things will change with educating adults about behavior labeling. Your comment is very appreciated! All my best, Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear Health Nut,

Thank you for writing. Let’s celebrate those that help our children become their best every day! Those that can see past a child’s behavior to figure out the reasoning behind what they do. Hopefully things will change with educating adults about behavior labeling.

Your comment is very appreciated!

All my best,
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

]]> By: Doc KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/behavior-labeling/#comment-8343 Doc KC Sat, 10 Jan 2009 01:45:47 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=93#comment-8343 Dear Cascia, I’m really glad that you enjoyed this post. Thank you for visiting and I hope you’ll be reading often. All my best, Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear Cascia,

I’m really glad that you enjoyed this post. Thank you for visiting and I hope you’ll be reading often.

All my best,

Dr. KC
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http://www.GLCzone.com

]]> By: Cascia @ Healthy Moms http://docinthebiz.com/blog/behavior-labeling/#comment-8316 Cascia @ Healthy Moms Fri, 09 Jan 2009 15:01:19 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=93#comment-8316 Wow, I never thought about that this way. What an interesting post. You are absolutely right it seems like we are way to negative with our children. Maybe we should be more positive about some of these behaviors. Very interesting. Thank you for sharing! Wow, I never thought about that this way. What an interesting post. You are absolutely right it seems like we are way to negative with our children. Maybe we should be more positive about some of these behaviors. Very interesting. Thank you for sharing!

]]> By: HealthNut http://docinthebiz.com/blog/behavior-labeling/#comment-7946 HealthNut Fri, 26 Dec 2008 18:36:38 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=93#comment-7946 Great post. I think it's wrong to set different standards for children. Nobody wants to take the time and effort to nurture and understand children. It seems everyone wants to "fix" kids and medicate them to make them compliant. It's a shame because some of the most animated children are destined to become free thinking leaders (which we could use more of in this world today). Great post. I think it’s wrong to set different standards for children. Nobody wants to take the time and effort to nurture and understand children. It seems everyone wants to “fix” kids and medicate them to make them compliant. It’s a shame because some of the most animated children are destined to become free thinking leaders (which we could use more of in this world today).

]]> By: Doc KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/behavior-labeling/#comment-7905 Doc KC Thu, 25 Dec 2008 18:19:42 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=93#comment-7905 Dear CC, You probably know what I'm going to say. You can accomplish ANYTHING you want if you set realistic goals, keep on your path, and never give up! If you want it, go for it! Read my other article about goal setting again if you need to! Never think you're too old for anything! That's a fallacy and not a good way to think. You have so much to give to others as well as to yourself. Do what you are good at and what you love! Let nothing get in your way. All my best, Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear CC,

You probably know what I’m going to say. You can accomplish ANYTHING you want if you set realistic goals, keep on your path, and never give up! If you want it, go for it! Read my other article about goal setting again if you need to!

Never think you’re too old for anything! That’s a fallacy and not a good way to think. You have so much to give to others as well as to yourself. Do what you are good at and what you love! Let nothing get in your way.

All my best,
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

]]> By: ClinicallyClueless http://docinthebiz.com/blog/behavior-labeling/#comment-7900 ClinicallyClueless Thu, 25 Dec 2008 17:39:23 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=93#comment-7900 Yes, I worked in the field for 17 years and prior to that runaway teens. Most of my caseload (72) were medically fragile or/and had mental health issues with all different cognitive levels. I always had some in the hospital either psychiatric or medical. Three years ago when my PTSD and depressive symptoms and management change took place, I was no longer able to work. I really miss it, but I know that I can't do the work in therapy that I need to do and work at the same time. This coming from a workaholic. I loved my work, but I may work, not work, volunteer or go back to school. My dream is to obtain my Psy.D., but at my age it may not be a wise choice. Thanks, CC Yes, I worked in the field for 17 years and prior to that runaway teens. Most of my caseload (72) were medically fragile or/and had mental health issues with all different cognitive levels. I always had some in the hospital either psychiatric or medical. Three years ago when my PTSD and depressive symptoms and management change took place, I was no longer able to work. I really miss it, but I know that I can’t do the work in therapy that I need to do and work at the same time. This coming from a workaholic. I loved my work, but I may work, not work, volunteer or go back to school. My dream is to obtain my Psy.D., but at my age it may not be a wise choice.

Thanks,
CC

]]> By: Doc KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/behavior-labeling/#comment-7897 Doc KC Thu, 25 Dec 2008 17:02:53 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=93#comment-7897 Dear J.D. Meier, Wonderful to hear from you again. Thank you for reading and commenting. I’m glad you enjoyed the article. All my best, Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear J.D. Meier,

Wonderful to hear from you again. Thank you for reading and commenting. I’m glad you enjoyed the article.

All my best,
Dr. KC
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http://www.GLCzone.com

]]> By: Doc KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/behavior-labeling/#comment-7896 Doc KC Thu, 25 Dec 2008 17:01:46 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=93#comment-7896 Dear Laurie, This comment is so insightful about paying attention! Yes, it is true. Children are often sponges and absorb everything. Sometimes almost to the point of overstimulation. In school, it is expected that when a teacher is teaching, the child should be paying attention to ONLY the teacher. That can be very difficult sometimes when there are other things going on around the room or even outside. Many children AND adults cannot demonstrate tunnel vision, but are easily distractible. The difference, as we said before, is that adults can get away with it more times while children will often get in trouble for it. Thank you for adding this comment. All my best, Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear Laurie,

This comment is so insightful about paying attention! Yes, it is true. Children are often sponges and absorb everything. Sometimes almost to the point of overstimulation. In school, it is expected that when a teacher is teaching, the child should be paying attention to ONLY the teacher. That can be very difficult sometimes when there are other things going on around the room or even outside. Many children AND adults cannot demonstrate tunnel vision, but are easily distractible. The difference, as we said before, is that adults can get away with it more times while children will often get in trouble for it.

Thank you for adding this comment.
All my best,
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

]]> By: Doc KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/behavior-labeling/#comment-7894 Doc KC Thu, 25 Dec 2008 16:56:00 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=93#comment-7894 Dear Laurie, Don’t I always give you lots to ponder? Smile. You explained the idea of intensity of events very well to your son. I’m so glad that he was able to understand! The answer to your question can come in many forms as each child will be different. I personally, have told the story, “The Boy Who Cried Wolf” many times to children with whom I have worked. The results were terrific. Just like with your son, you teach children that expressing their feelings is a wonderful thing, but at the same time, you teach them HOW to express them. For instance, talking calmly to an adult about what is bothering him/her versus yelling, throwing, breaking, or hitting. This, like so many other things is something that takes learning. By children as well as by adults. We all could learn how to express ourselves better in many cases. I agree completely with what you said. Quite often, the same behavior demonstrated by a child and an adult would leave the child in big trouble, while the adult flies under the radar. It’s not quite fair. Many more parents should teach their children in the way you described at the end of your post! Bravo to that! Thank you so much for your comment. All my best, Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear Laurie,

Don’t I always give you lots to ponder? Smile.

You explained the idea of intensity of events very well to your son. I’m so glad that he was able to understand! The answer to your question can come in many forms as each child will be different. I personally, have told the story, “The Boy Who Cried Wolf” many times to children with whom I have worked. The results were terrific. Just like with your son, you teach children that expressing their feelings is a wonderful thing, but at the same time, you teach them HOW to express them. For instance, talking calmly to an adult about what is bothering him/her versus yelling, throwing, breaking, or hitting. This, like so many other things is something that takes learning. By children as well as by adults. We all could learn how to express ourselves better in many cases.

I agree completely with what you said. Quite often, the same behavior demonstrated by a child and an adult would leave the child in big trouble, while the adult flies under the radar. It’s not quite fair.

Many more parents should teach their children in the way you described at the end of your post! Bravo to that!

Thank you so much for your comment.
All my best,
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

]]> By: Doc KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/behavior-labeling/#comment-7893 Doc KC Thu, 25 Dec 2008 16:46:20 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=93#comment-7893 Dear Kramer, Thank you very much for your comment. I'm glad that you have joined us and I hope you will continue reading. All my best, Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear Kramer,

Thank you very much for your comment. I’m glad that you have joined us and I hope you will continue reading.

All my best,
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

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