I agree with your thoughts on this issue. Perhaps the people with high self esteem and those of low self esteem can be divided into two groups: those with an internal locus of control and those with an external locus of control. Developing an internal locus of control allows one to accept that the future is determined by one’s own efforts. Yes, we live and exist as members of a larger community and as such the actions of the larger community maybe moving in different direction from our planned course. However, our actions will still affect the larger community. This becomes evident when you know that what you say or do will have influence (directly or indirectly) the well being and actions of someone else.

Those with an external locus of control function under the notion that they are unable to solve their own problems and become dependent on larger society for their absolute survival. Because they do not believe that they have any influence over their own lives or that of the larger community, they will have low self esteem and behave indecisively.

I don’t think anyone is born to either category. Genetics and environment play a role in our development. I think moreso, it is the reinforcement of certain notions and beliefs that will impact whether or not we will develop health self esteem or allow ourselves to become subject to the absolute will and whims of others. With proper encouragement, I believe that anyone can stand tall on his or her own, ever cognizant of the fact that all people have value and must live not only for themselves but for the larger community as well.

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I am diving into art some. I am learning to draw and paint. With this, I find I want lots of reassurance that what I am doing is good. I do welcome feedback and have no problem with that, but I also seek out approval with the things I create. Maybe as I become more confident that desire will settle down but then with art, don’t people create it to be shared and enjoyed?

I tend to believe it is both. My feelings are that a person is born with innate characteristics, such as a sense of self worth. As the person grows, environmental factors such as society, family, teachers, or peers can help the person’s self worth either grow and develop fruitfully or be weakened.

Self esteem, like so many other characteristics, can be learned or unlearned. Yes, we are born with our personalities, but through time, growth and experience, these can be altered through learning, attitude, motivation and inspiration when external forces work on internal forces.

In the event of a person being born with a chemical imbalance, which predisposes him/her to anxiety or depression, we must make a shift in thinking. A person with an anxiety disorder or depression may have to work a bit harder to find happiness and a sense of self worth, but these certainly are treatable conditions and the person can still live a wonderful life of high quality.

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Dr. KC
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I’m glad I was able to give you greater insight and knowledge on this subject. We must do the very best we can for our children!

Thank you again for visiting and I look forward to seeing you here again. Your feedback and questions are always welcome and appreciated.

All my best,
Dr. KC
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