30 Nov
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by KC Kelly, Ph.D., LMHC
Many a day, I have spent hours sitting on the floor in the philosophy section of used book stores, reading some of the most magnificent works of art written. The smell of old books is joyful. The idea that the books I love so dearly are approximately an average of two dollars each is unbelievable being that the material inside those books is priceless. Anything that can change a life for the better is indeed, priceless. I have three copies on my book shelf of one of the most significant and popular books about Existentialism ever written: “Man’s Search for Meaning” by the amazing Father of Existentialism, Dr. Viktor E. Frankl.
How I wish that he was still alive when I was researching his life and his philosophies in order to write my dissertation on existential analysis, a topic that just didn’t make it to the final cut due to its complexity. However, the hours spent reading and learning were something I don’t regret. I learned a whole new epistemology in which I live my life. After “meeting” the works of Dr. Frankl, I quickly became proud to call myself a post-modern Existentialist. All thanks to a man that passed on before I was able to meet him. And believe me, I would have tried.
Dr. Viktor E. Frankl lived through the horrific experiences of the Auschwitz and Dachau concentration camps. Through his agony, this hero never stopped attempting to help many others in the camps to survive the horrid conditions and dehumanizing abuse imposed upon these prisoners. They were starved and worked naked in the snow and freezing temperatures. They were beaten, tortured, and lived with the fear of impending death by gas at any moment. The conditions in which these people were forced to live were ghastly, dreadful, and unspeakable. Through his great will, beliefs, and ideas that the mind is the strongest force which one can control through his/her own consciousness given the desire and aspiration to do so, Frankl himself survived. It was his will to survive; his belief that one day he would be reunited with his wife and unborn child (who were immediately taken and killed) that helped him through his daily torment. The music that he could hear in his mind, the beauty that he could find in the sunset, the beliefs he held onto were “things” that no one, no matter what, could take away from him. Dr. Viktor E. Frankl reached liberation! Given the worse circumstances imaginable, he survived. In his writings, Dr. Frankl borrowed the brilliant words of Neitzsche, who said, “He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.”
We can probably all agree that if you are alive, you are going to find yourself in controversy, in pain, and in suffering at some point or another. The discourse may not be as horrific as the unspeakable horror of living in a concentration camp, but it is suffering none-the-less. After all, suffering is relative. The point is, that it is imperative that one finds meaning in existence and in suffering. That is what Dr. Frankl contributed to the world of psychology.
Go ahead, I challenge you to read, “Man’s Search for Meaning” and not shed a tear, not feel hatred for the disgust that mankind can impose upon each other, and not cheer when our hero reaches liberation. Dr. Frankl teaches how to love unconditionally. He teaches how the human spirit has strengths deeper than one could ever believe or imagine having. He is living proof that a person can have everything and everyone stripped away from him/her and still understand that the most important thing that could not be taken away is belief, faith, love. With these in tact, one can survive anything, says Dr. Frankl. To quote this great hero, who believes that we all have the freedom of spirit and faith, “It is this spiritual freedom which can not be taken away that makes life meaningful and purposeful.” He also stated, “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms, to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” We are each responsible for finding our own meaning to our existence and to our suffering. We cannot put that responsibility onto anyone but ourselves. For to do so would not only bring about someone else’s perception leading to THEIR answer to what we are trying to discover, but also unfair.
Dr. Viktor E. Frankl has written many books and I own every one of them. They are in “loved” condition right from the shelves of bookstores where people place what they consider trash into the hands of what others consider treasure. The works of Dr. Frankl are my treasures…along with the meaning that I find in MY life and what helps me to be the kind of therapist and person I am.
Here are just some amazing titles from an incredible psychiatrist, who gave so much to the movement of his time and still gives today.
Man’s Search for Meaning
Man’s Search for Ultimate Meaning
The Unheard Cry for Meaning
The Will to Meaning
The Unconscious God
Psychotherapy and Existentialism
Thank you for reading about my hero. Who is your hero?
Dr. KC
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25 Responses
Laurie
30|Nov|2008 1I read “Man’s Search for Meaning” a couple of years ago. I was incredible as you say. It is impressive how a person can keep their thoughts in tact in such a way as to not be mentally defeated as well during such harsh and intolerable treatment.
My hero? Follow the link and see who my hero is:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v4uG2kSdd-4
Lance
30|Nov|2008 2You have a wonderful hero, KC! This gentleman is a true example of living life and never giving up. And because of that, he has passed on so much of his wisdom through his writing. A favorite quote of mine by Frankl is - “Man’s last freedom is his freedom to choose how he will react in any given situation” — along with those you’ve listed above. I just find his whole story of survival to be an amazing example of the human will at work! Thank you for sharing this here! And, now I’m off to see if I can find some of these books….
Silvian Guranda
01|Dec|2008 3Greetings from the heart of ROMANIA!
dr. Frankl is my hero too, since i got sick of lyme disease (strage 3 neurological, big pains all around my peripheral nerves and joint, backbone etc.)
For many years i was misdiagnosed and when lyme was diagnosed it was already too late…
i even had to go through a major brain surgery (meningioma) which i still belive it was of an infectious couase (though they could not check that).
Frankl’s books and his logoterapy helpled me cope with my pain and suffering and
even energized me to fight against my pain and sruggle for a meaning in my life
IN SPITE of all my suffering and pain…
I found on YOUR site some referrence you make to “Frankl’s children”…
i have read 4 of his books (including Recollections, which is autobiographical) and other biographycal sketchesm BUT
this is not correct!
before the camp, Frankl got married to Tilly and they were supposed to have a child
te nazi forced her to abort the unborn baby
later Frankl wrote his The unheard cry for meaning in the memory of teir baby
Tilly died in the concentration camp and after liberation Frankl got married with Ellie, and thay had a daughter Gabrielle
here’s what YOU say in your article: “his belief that one day he would be reunited with
his wife and children (who were immediately taken and killed) that helped him
through his daily torment”
NO such children!
would you please consider that matter and do the appropriate corrections?
if you dont’ mind…
anyway i was impressed
I am married, a wonderful wife (my veryu angel!) and 3 marvelous children (2 boys and a girl, two of them in the highschool).
Silvian Guranda, Cluj, Romania
Doc KC
01|Dec|2008 4Dear Laurie,
Yes, this best seller is incredible! Words cannot truly express the magnitude of brevity that Dr. Frankl displayed during that time.
Thank you for your comment. I will follow your link as soon as I have the time. I am looking forward to seeing who your hero is!
All my best,
Dr. KC
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Doc KC
01|Dec|2008 5Dear Lance,
Yes, indeed I believe my hero is exceptional! That quote is one of my favorites as well. It is very similar to the others which all have such power!
I’m so glad that you will be reading some of Dr. Frankl’s other works! They are magnificent!
Thank you so much for your comment! I always love to hear from you! Do you have a hero?
All my best,
Dr. KC
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Doc KC
01|Dec|2008 6Dear Silvian Guranda,
Welcome! We love to hear from all over the world here, and Romania is no exception!
I’m so sorry to hear of all that you have gone through and endured. If you want hope and faith for recovery, you certainly did pick a wonderful model of therapy…logotherapy! In “Man’s Search for Meaning” Dr. Frankl explains his modality very well in terms that lay people can truly understand. I’m so glad it helped you!
I got my reference about Dr. Frankl’s child from the following 1997 article:
http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?res=9E00E1DF1530F937A3575AC0A961958260&sec=&spon=&pagewanted=all
Dr. Frankl’s child was unborn, as his wife was pregnant, but had not delivered the baby into the world yet. I suppose I still accept that as someone having a child and when the Nazi’s took his wife when they entered the camp, they killed both her and their unborn child. I have made that correction to be more unambiguous in my article. Thank you for pointing it out!
You sound like a wonderful mother and wife…a happy one! I’m glad that we can share the same hero because it warms my heart to hear actual accounts of how Dr. Frankl has helped not only those he suffered with in the camps, but people who are suffering all around the world who read his books and other material that people have written about him.
I hope you will continue to contribute to this blog! You have a lot to offer. Again, thank you!
All my best,
Dr. KC
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Silvian Guranda
02|Dec|2008 7Regarding “You sound like a wonderful mother and wife…a happy one! I’m glad that we can share the same hero…”
Actually i am a [wonderful] father and husband.
No problem, i agree that both my name Silvian and my family name Guranda are quite uncommon and you could not know if they belong to a man or wife.
In his RECOLLECTION autobiograhical book, Frankl does not say that his unborn child “was killed together with her mother in the conentration camp” - as you put it above. By contrary he explains that his wife, as any other Jew woman living at that time in Austria, HAD to abort her child, as the Nazis forced her to do so.
Thank you for your invitation,, i would gladely continue to contribute to your site on Frankl and his meaning orientation therapy, but don’t know how. Open to further questions, I would do mz commentaries, if you would just ask me.
Blessings from Above… - btw: do you know Frankl was a very religious man, that he has many referrences in his books about God, and he even delivered a lecture and wrote a boo with the title of The unconscious God, he makes it clear that this does not mean that God woudl be unconscious (as Jung succumb to that error), but the human being could be unconscious of a personal God, to whom he is referring and gives account even at an unconscious level.
So, blessings from Above
Silvian, Romania, silvianguranda@gmail.com
Lola Snow
03|Dec|2008 8One of my favourite books too. It didn’t solve my existential crisis, but it was incredibly powerful and an amazing story. I think I had to read it twice or possibly a third time though, to really begin to understand it.
Lola
Lance
04|Dec|2008 9Hi Dr. KC,
Do I have a hero? I’m struggling with this one. And I feel bad about that - like I should have someone who jumps out at me as a hero - but it’s not coming to me… That said, a couple of people: Gandhi, Mother Teresa, Stephen Covey… I’ve been reading a book by Mother Teresa - this reminds me I should get back to it…
And I’m thinking as I leave here today - I DO want to have someone I can look to as a hero. I’m going forth with a plan to discover who that really is for me, as I journey forward…
Doc KC
05|Dec|2008 10Dear Lola Snow,
I don’t know how many times I have read, “Man’s Search for Meaning!” It’s so powerful to me and each time I read it I pick up something new or see something differently. That’s the magic of such work.
What do you see as your “existential crisis” as you stated you are experiencing?
Dr. KC
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Doc KC
05|Dec|2008 11Dear Lance,
Please don’t feel badly if you don’t have a hero. If you would like to find someone to admire and see as a muse, take your time, read a lot of things about which you are interested in learning. When you find someone (an author for example) that you truly can understand and you feel fits your way of thinking, then you’ll find you have a hero!
In my opinion, finding a hero should be natural process…almost a serendipitous phenomenon.
All my best,
Dr. KC
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Doc KC
05|Dec|2008 12Dear Silvian,
My apologies for thinking you were a mother/wife. It was an assumption I should not have made. I’m glad you were not upset by that. So… wonderful FATHER/husband, thank you for your comment. Smile.
I do know that Dr. Frankl was a very religious man and I own all his books, but I try not to get too much into religion in my blog. That is something about which many people feel strongly and so I keep my personal beliefs to myself as they are for me and I cannot assume they would be helpful to others. The important thing to me is that I have these beliefs that keep me going every day and Dr. Frankl is a big part of that.
I help others find ways to have belief and hope, or to expand on what they already believe for the things they want in their lives. At that point, my clients become MY teacher in helping me to help them. The success rate for reaching goals and feeling better emotionally, mentally and even physically is staggering too, as people come to believe, whatever it may be that drives them. When people have something to believe in, I have found that they healed, found answers, and reached goals more quickly than others who didn’t believe in anything in particular. However, please remember that these are only my experiences.
If you wish to start a conversation on religion, I can suggest you register for free on http://www.GLCzone.com and enter the forum there. The dialogue at GLCzone is always assured to be safe and educational. The site is new and growing every day. It just might be a better place than here for specific “touchy” topics with many people willing to put in their 2 cents. Just a thought.
Otherwise, new articles come out from me, every 1-2 weeks and I would still love your feedback. Thank you again for being here!
All my best,
Dr. KC
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Laurie
07|Dec|2008 13Doc,
Did you follow the link to my hero? You will be totally inspired. I know I am. I want to meet him one day, wrap my arms around him and hug him tightly. He is amazing!
Oh, and Lance didn’t want to tell you that, uhhh I am his hero! (tongue in cheek) ;o)
John D
08|Dec|2008 14Your writing has an infectious enthusiasm about it, and of course I am grabbing my copy of Man’s Search for Meaning off its neglected spot on my shelf and getting right into it. Thank you for this wonderful introduction to his work! I’m really interested in the title The Unconscious God - that reminds me of Tillich’s formulation from that same era. Everyone has ultimate concerns about life and the meaning of existence, and he called that ultimate concern God. It is that sense of the farthest reaches of being that we wonder about - in so doing we get closer to God, even though we don’t think of it that way.
Thank you!
HealthNut
10|Dec|2008 15I am a new visitor and I was drawn by your reference to sitting among philosophy books in a used book store - something I enjoy doing myself. Thank you for this piece about Dr. Frankl, I will have to explore his work.
Doc KC
10|Dec|2008 16Dear Laurie,
Yes, I did visit your hero and WOW, what an inspiration! There are so many courageous individuals out there, each with their own stories. I feel that it is imperative to realize that everyone has issues and they are all relative, none being any less severe or important than another’s. It’s all in our attitude how we get past them!
When I heard him say, “I’m happy” my heart melted!
Thank you for sharing!
All my best,
Doc KC
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Doc KC
10|Dec|2008 17Dear John D,
Thank you so much for the compliment! I’m so happy you like my writing. And even happier to read that you will treat yourself to a most precious gift called “Man’s Search for Meaning”. You won’t be sorry to read this empowering masterpiece! I can only hope you get as much out of it as I did.
You bring up, in my opinion, a very true statement. Whether people know it on the service level or not, “everyone has ultimate concerns about life and the meaning of existence”. And whatever higher power or other way someone decides to seek out answers that work for them and keep them going is wonderful.
Thank you again for joining us here and I hope to read more of your insightful thinking!
All my best,
Dr. KC
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Doc KC
10|Dec|2008 18Dear HealthNut,
You will not be sorry when you explore the works of Dr. Viktor Frankl. Hopefully, he’ll leave you wanting more.
Thank you for your comment. I love to welome new visitors and like-minded people! I’m so glad that you joined us here and I truly hope you will continue to read my articles and share your insight with us.
All my best,
Dr. KC
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elizabeth
14|Dec|2008 19So powerful! Viktor Frankl is truly inspirational. Thanks for this wonderful post. I enjoyed reading this 100%.
Dr Roger
14|Dec|2008 20Hello Doc,
Viktor Frank is one of my favorites. You have excellent taste.
His story of life in the concertration camps is horrific. But, yet, his
belief, faith and love helped him through this and gives us so much inspiration and strength.
Doc KC
21|Dec|2008 21Dear Elizabeth,
I’m truly glad you enjoyed this article and share the same enthusiasm for such a wonderful master of life.
All my best,
Dr. KC
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Doc KC
21|Dec|2008 22Dear Dr. Roger,
I love to find those who share similar passions as I.
A true mentor and genius we certainly can find in Dr. Viktor Frankl, in my opinion.
All my best,
Dr. KC
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J.D. Meier
25|Dec|2008 23Good job.
I too like the smell of old books.
Really fine point that suffering is relative. It’s great to have reference examples and use the principle of contrast.
> “He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.”
SWEET! Any chance you know about the Golden Circle? It’s all about the Why and live from the inside out.
I like the point on attitude. I always remember that we at least constrol our attitude, our approach and our response.
Doc KC
25|Dec|2008 24Dear J.D. Meier,
Thank you so much again for another amazing comment! You always have so much to add here!
I have not heard about the Golden Circle, but will now have to do my research to read about it. Thank you for bringing it up as it sounds very interesting.
All my best,
Dr. KC
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