Comments on: Is Crying a Sign of Weakness? http://docinthebiz.com/blog/is-crying-a-sign-of-weakness/ THINK WELL to FEEL WELL...It's All About Being Emotionally Healthy! Wed, 17 Mar 2010 07:21:22 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Nikkii http://docinthebiz.com/blog/is-crying-a-sign-of-weakness/#comment-8546 Nikkii Wed, 14 Jan 2009 10:53:24 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=67#comment-8546 No matter how many articles I read on "Is crying a weakness", they all say the same thing...."No". But to me I cannot accept it because through my whole childhood I was teased and bullied. The other kids did this because they knew that I was vulnerable and that they can make me cry. When I left the school and started a new life, I have told myself that crying is a weakness. If I do ever cry in front of people I become so emmbarrassed because they (people) may judge me and bully me. I do not want to feel that experience again. I do not even cry in my room when alone...a few tears will come down, but I would lean back my head and tell myself, "Do not cry! Suck it up!" After I tell myself that I stop crying. No more tears to be shredded. Why do I tell myself not to cry? Is it because of what had happened to me in the past? I want to cry, but I can't. No matter how many articles I read on “Is crying a weakness”, they all say the same thing….”No”. But to me I cannot accept it because through my whole childhood I was teased and bullied. The other kids did this because they knew that I was vulnerable and that they can make me cry. When I left the school and started a new life, I have told myself that crying is a weakness. If I do ever cry in front of people I become so emmbarrassed because they (people) may judge me and bully me. I do not want to feel that experience again. I do not even cry in my room when alone…a few tears will come down, but I would lean back my head and tell myself, “Do not cry! Suck it up!” After I tell myself that I stop crying. No more tears to be shredded. Why do I tell myself not to cry? Is it because of what had happened to me in the past? I want to cry, but I can’t.

]]> By: Reiki Energy http://docinthebiz.com/blog/is-crying-a-sign-of-weakness/#comment-1468 Reiki Energy Tue, 12 Aug 2008 18:46:14 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=67#comment-1468 Thanks for the informative post.. and thanks for adding our comment to the blog. Thanks for the informative post.. and thanks for adding our comment to the blog.

]]> By: Dr. KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/is-crying-a-sign-of-weakness/#comment-1163 Dr. KC Wed, 23 Jul 2008 22:58:11 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=67#comment-1163 Dear Reiki Chic, I agree with your eloquent words. Crying is indeed a fantastic and often necessary release. Science hasn’t proven it to be “necessary” but it sure seems to be. It’s better to cry to release this trapped energy then to do a lot of the other negative things people do to get it out. I also believe that caretakers of children need to do away with teaching the stereotypical gender roles. I don’t see how they do anyone any good! I’ll just leave it at that for now! Thank you so much for your comment! Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear Reiki Chic,

I agree with your eloquent words. Crying is indeed a fantastic and often necessary release. Science hasn’t proven it to be “necessary” but it sure seems to be. It’s better to cry to release this trapped energy then to do a lot of the other negative things people do to get it out.

I also believe that caretakers of children need to do away with teaching the stereotypical gender roles. I don’t see how they do anyone any good! I’ll just leave it at that for now!

Thank you so much for your comment!

Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

]]> By: Reiki Chic http://docinthebiz.com/blog/is-crying-a-sign-of-weakness/#comment-1160 Reiki Chic Wed, 23 Jul 2008 21:32:12 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=67#comment-1160 The act of crying is essential for emotional release of trapped emotional energy. I am a Reiki energy healer, so I deal with trapped energies in all my clients. A lot of the time they need to cry to get the energy to fully release. They will have trapped negative energies in their body because they had a fight with their Mom as a child or something like that. I touch their emotional trigger and WHAMMO--waterworks and then I feel that energy just level out and become normal. We have to stop telling our little boys not to cry and feel. That's half the problem with today's men, they can't express themselves fully to their partners or to themselves. They are emotionally retarded and we have to STOP that process and teaching ASAP! The act of crying is essential for emotional release of trapped emotional energy. I am a Reiki energy healer, so I deal with trapped energies in all my clients. A lot of the time they need to cry to get the energy to fully release. They will have trapped negative energies in their body because they had a fight with their Mom as a child or something like that. I touch their emotional trigger and WHAMMO–waterworks and then I feel that energy just level out and become normal.

We have to stop telling our little boys not to cry and feel. That’s half the problem with today’s men, they can’t express themselves fully to their partners or to themselves. They are emotionally retarded and we have to STOP that process and teaching ASAP!

]]> By: Dr. KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/is-crying-a-sign-of-weakness/#comment-931 Dr. KC Sun, 13 Jul 2008 11:22:27 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=67#comment-931 Dear LostSon, What a beautiful affirmation you make here; especially to the physically and mentally “army strong”. Thank you so much for sharing this eloquently put declaration of how OK and healthy it is to express emotions through crying. Whether one chooses to cry in front of others or in private; that is a personal choice, but either way, a healthy choice. To be able to release feelings of “hate and hurting” can be very beneficial, as you are correct…life is too short to hold onto these negative kinds of emotions. Again, thank you for your comment and please keep reading and posting. Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear LostSon,

What a beautiful affirmation you make here; especially to the physically and mentally “army strong”. Thank you so much for sharing this eloquently put declaration of how OK and healthy it is to express emotions through crying. Whether one chooses to cry in front of others or in private; that is a personal choice, but either way, a healthy choice. To be able to release feelings of “hate and hurting” can be very beneficial, as you are correct…life is too short to hold onto these negative kinds of emotions.

Again, thank you for your comment and please keep reading and posting.

Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

]]> By: LostSon http://docinthebiz.com/blog/is-crying-a-sign-of-weakness/#comment-926 LostSon Sun, 13 Jul 2008 04:54:40 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=67#comment-926 I've been in the Marine Corps, played Varsity Football and Basketball, Can lift very heavy weights, etc... anyways... the point is im very strong, competitive and I have never felt anything wrong with crying. I just wanted to offer another view of military types because to a large degree, it is just a stereotype. Look on any battlefield or read any real life non-fiction war story, men weep. It is natural to cry, I would even go so far to say that if you don't cry over certain life events, you should probably go see a psychologist just to double-check the state your mental health, and I'm trying to express this as respectfully and responsibly as possible. As far as when I decide to cry, its always in private.... after all, I don't need my grieving to be a burden unto others. Secondly, I believe that without crying, I tend to hold in more hate and hurt. Life is just too short for either of those... Thank you for this blog, its appreciated. I’ve been in the Marine Corps, played Varsity Football and Basketball, Can lift very heavy weights, etc… anyways… the point is im very strong, competitive and I have never felt anything wrong with crying. I just wanted to offer another view of military types because to a large degree, it is just a stereotype. Look on any battlefield or read any real life non-fiction war story, men weep.

It is natural to cry, I would even go so far to say that if you don’t cry over certain life events, you should probably go see a psychologist just to double-check the state your mental health, and I’m trying to express this as respectfully and responsibly as possible.

As far as when I decide to cry, its always in private…. after all, I don’t need my grieving to be a burden unto others. Secondly, I believe that without crying, I tend to hold in more hate and hurt. Life is just too short for either of those…

Thank you for this blog, its appreciated.

]]> By: Dr. KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/is-crying-a-sign-of-weakness/#comment-765 Dr. KC Sat, 28 Jun 2008 16:31:06 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=67#comment-765 Dear Sunny Beach, Yes, women AND men alike can use certainly use crying to get attention; however this is a vast generalization. If you do notice a major pattern with someone you know who uses crying to get attention, you may want to gently confront the person and share your feelings that there are other more healthy ways to get attention. Thank you for your comment. Please keep reading and posting. Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear Sunny Beach,

Yes, women AND men alike can use certainly use crying to get attention; however this is a vast generalization. If you do notice a major pattern with someone you know who uses crying to get attention, you may want to gently confront the person and share your feelings that there are other more healthy ways to get attention.

Thank you for your comment. Please keep reading and posting.

Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

]]> By: sunny beach http://docinthebiz.com/blog/is-crying-a-sign-of-weakness/#comment-759 sunny beach Sat, 28 Jun 2008 07:04:29 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=67#comment-759 Women use crying to get attention though to. Women use crying to get attention though to.

]]> By: Dr. KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/is-crying-a-sign-of-weakness/#comment-753 Dr. KC Fri, 27 Jun 2008 18:41:25 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=67#comment-753 Dear Tommy, I love Jim’s idea of making a list of three things that you think are healthy to do everyday of your life. I think all people should have such a list! Thank you so much for your comment and for sharing Jim’s quote! Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear Tommy,

I love Jim’s idea of making a list of three things that you think are healthy to do everyday of your life. I think all people should have such a list!

Thank you so much for your comment and for sharing Jim’s quote!

Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

]]> By: Tommy Buettner http://docinthebiz.com/blog/is-crying-a-sign-of-weakness/#comment-746 Tommy Buettner Fri, 27 Jun 2008 15:40:30 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=67#comment-746 It's like Jim Valvano said when he was dying of cancer... "You should do three things everyday of your life. You should laugh, cry, and think". It’s like Jim Valvano said when he was dying of cancer…

“You should do three things everyday of your life. You should laugh, cry, and think”.

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