Comments on: Lucky or Unlucky in Love? http://docinthebiz.com/blog/lucky-or-unlucky-in-love/ THINK WELL to FEEL WELL...It's All About Being Emotionally Healthy! Fri, 30 Jul 2010 14:14:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Dr. KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/lucky-or-unlucky-in-love/#comment-54183 Dr. KC Mon, 26 Apr 2010 21:53:29 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=95#comment-54183 Dear Robert, Thank you for your very beautifully and eloquently stated comment. I always encourage people to dream. However, at the same time, I share the importance of turning those dreams into goals with realistic steps that will lead to the dream successfully coming true. In setting goals, this makes the finish line seem clearer and helps people to understand that they must 100% believe in themselves and what they want, while at the same time take the necessary action to get there. One of the most important parts of the "action" stage is readiness, as you stated. Please continue reading and commenting as you do, for your words are a true inspiration. All my best, Dr. KC Dear Robert,

Thank you for your very beautifully and eloquently stated comment. I always encourage people to dream. However, at the same time, I share the importance of turning those dreams into goals with realistic steps that will lead to the dream successfully coming true.

In setting goals, this makes the finish line seem clearer and helps people to understand that they must 100% believe in themselves and what they want, while at the same time take the necessary action to get there. One of the most important parts of the “action” stage is readiness, as you stated.

Please continue reading and commenting as you do, for your words are a true inspiration.

All my best,
Dr. KC

]]> By: Robert H http://docinthebiz.com/blog/lucky-or-unlucky-in-love/#comment-54171 Robert H Mon, 26 Apr 2010 20:16:36 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=95#comment-54171 I believe the definition of luck is preparation meeting opportunity. Having a firm belief that you will meet the person "perfect for you" is a good start, but you have to leverage that belief into a plan of action. Too many persons feel that love will drop in their lap and everything will be ok. Nothing is further from the truth--you have to be ready to love, to meet the person of your dreams. If you are not prepared, it will not happen...or if you do run into that person you might just miss your opportunity. I believe the definition of luck is preparation meeting opportunity. Having a firm belief that you will meet the person “perfect for you” is a good start, but you have to leverage that belief into a plan of action. Too many persons feel that love will drop in their lap and everything will be ok. Nothing is further from the truth–you have to be ready to love, to meet the person of your dreams. If you are not prepared, it will not happen…or if you do run into that person you might just miss your opportunity.

]]> By: Doc KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/lucky-or-unlucky-in-love/#comment-29278 Doc KC Wed, 23 Sep 2009 22:31:13 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=95#comment-29278 Dear Andrea, Age truly hasn't anything to do with finding the right love for you. At the age of 28, you are truly young, with many years of growing, experiencing and learning to do. Please do not give up on love and certainly do not give up on yourself. The best thing to do, is to find out the pattern(s) that you follow when you meet potential partners. Delving into these patterns will help you see red flags more quickly and realize someone may not be for you before you get yourself emotionally involved enough to get hurt. Finally, if you have faith and believe, the right person will enter your life at the right time. That time is usually not for us to determine. Please keep writing if you would like to share more. All my best, Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear Andrea,

Age truly hasn’t anything to do with finding the right love for you. At the age of 28, you are truly young, with many years of growing, experiencing and learning to do. Please do not give up on love and certainly do not give up on yourself.

The best thing to do, is to find out the pattern(s) that you follow when you meet potential partners. Delving into these patterns will help you see red flags more quickly and realize someone may not be for you before you get yourself emotionally involved enough to get hurt.

Finally, if you have faith and believe, the right person will enter your life at the right time. That time is usually not for us to determine.

Please keep writing if you would like to share more.

All my best,
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

]]> By: Andrea http://docinthebiz.com/blog/lucky-or-unlucky-in-love/#comment-28899 Andrea Sat, 19 Sep 2009 14:38:28 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=95#comment-28899 I lost trust in love. I'm 28 years this year. I've been in and out from bad relationship, in which one of those are abusive. And recently, I met a man I thought was different, but again, as if proven to me once again that love isn't for me. I lost trust in love. I’m 28 years this year. I’ve been in and out from bad relationship, in which one of those are abusive. And recently, I met a man I thought was different, but again, as if proven to me once again that love isn’t for me.

]]> By: Doc KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/lucky-or-unlucky-in-love/#comment-15204 Doc KC Wed, 06 May 2009 14:51:28 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=95#comment-15204 Dear Kathy, Trust is definitely not an easy thing to hold onto...especially when things seem to keep repeating themselves. You are not alone! Even one bad breakup is enough to cause wounds deep enough to lead to a loss of trust. Here is the good news; however, FOR YOU: You have gotten beyond losing your trust in relationships and love in the past by talking with a counselor and this means that you can do it once again. You found love and allowed yourself to be fully invested in it after being hurt many times before, and this too means you can do it again. We can never control the feelings or actions of others, but we can control our own. In other words, we must build up our self esteem and self worth enough to where we are strong on our own as well as when in a relationship. Good things can be coming your way if you believe they will. Can you possibly talk to someone once again to help you build that self esteem to where it was before this past relationship? I would love to see you in a place where a man does not have to help you break down your walls, but you can do it yourself. First love must be self love and that is what you need to find again. Self love allows us to give ourselves and our hearts to another without trepidation of impending doom of the relationship. It also helps us through the difficult times when trust is broken. How? Because we know we can count on ourselves! I'm here, at <a href="http://www.docinthebiz.com/subscribe.html" rel="nofollow">DOCintheBiz</a> if you would like to talk further. All my best, Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear Kathy,

Trust is definitely not an easy thing to hold onto…especially when things seem to keep repeating themselves. You are not alone! Even one bad breakup is enough to cause wounds deep enough to lead to a loss of trust. Here is the good news; however, FOR YOU: You have gotten beyond losing your trust in relationships and love in the past by talking with a counselor and this means that you can do it once again. You found love and allowed yourself to be fully invested in it after being hurt many times before, and this too means you can do it again.

We can never control the feelings or actions of others, but we can control our own. In other words, we must build up our self esteem and self worth enough to where we are strong on our own as well as when in a relationship.

Good things can be coming your way if you believe they will. Can you possibly talk to someone once again to help you build that self esteem to where it was before this past relationship? I would love to see you in a place where a man does not have to help you break down your walls, but you can do it yourself. First love must be self love and that is what you need to find again. Self love allows us to give ourselves and our hearts to another without trepidation of impending doom of the relationship. It also helps us through the difficult times when trust is broken. How? Because we know we can count on ourselves! I’m here, at DOCintheBiz if you would like to talk further.

All my best,
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

]]> By: Kathy http://docinthebiz.com/blog/lucky-or-unlucky-in-love/#comment-14897 Kathy Mon, 04 May 2009 01:03:44 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=95#comment-14897 I spent my life in bad relationships and a horrible marriage. After a horrible marriage and more bad relationships, I sought counseling to stop the pattern. I have now been divorced almost 22 years. I finally met a man during this time who was warm, sensitive and caring and took the time to help me bring down the walls that I built up. Last year, he left me in the most horrible year of my life after 6 years. We had a horrific fight. Now I'm left wondering why he couldn't give me one more chance. He picked up another woman, moved her in and never looked back. He refused to call me, talk to me and it's been almost a year. I can't seem to move on. I'm totally devastated to understand any of this. I spent 5 years in counseling to get beyond my past. He always told me, he wasn't like the rest and he wasn't going to leave. But he did. He came back from the war different I might add so this wasn't all my fault. I feel like I will spend the rest of my life alone. Like I said, I will be divorced for 22 years soon. How will I ever trust again if I would meet someone? I spent my life in bad relationships and a horrible marriage. After a horrible marriage and more bad relationships, I sought counseling to stop the pattern. I have now been divorced almost 22 years. I finally met a man during this time who was warm, sensitive and caring and took the time to help me bring down the walls that I built up. Last year, he left me in the most horrible year of my life after 6 years. We had a horrific fight. Now I’m left wondering why he couldn’t give me one more chance. He picked up another woman, moved her in and never looked back. He refused to call me, talk to me and it’s been almost a year. I can’t seem to move on. I’m totally devastated to understand any of this. I spent 5 years in counseling to get beyond my past. He always told me, he wasn’t like the rest and he wasn’t going to leave. But he did. He came back from the war different I might add so this wasn’t all my fault. I feel like I will spend the rest of my life alone. Like I said, I will be divorced for 22 years soon. How will I ever trust again if I would meet someone?

]]> By: Doc KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/lucky-or-unlucky-in-love/#comment-13404 Doc KC Fri, 17 Apr 2009 15:14:54 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=95#comment-13404 Dear Bethann, Thank you so much for your kind comment. It is most appreciated. I hope you will continue to visit DOCintheBiz. All my best, Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear Bethann,

Thank you so much for your kind comment. It is most appreciated. I hope you will continue to visit DOCintheBiz.

All my best,
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

]]> By: Bethann http://docinthebiz.com/blog/lucky-or-unlucky-in-love/#comment-13237 Bethann Thu, 16 Apr 2009 00:54:25 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=95#comment-13237 I love what you have to say and the gentle way you get your points across. You must be an awesome therapist! I love what you have to say and the gentle way you get your points across. You must be an awesome therapist!

]]> By: Doc KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/lucky-or-unlucky-in-love/#comment-13153 Doc KC Wed, 15 Apr 2009 15:08:56 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=95#comment-13153 Dear Laurie, Thank you for your welcome back! Lots of projects that I have been working on have taken me from my blog, but I don't plan to be away that long again. First love needs to be self love. I believe this is exactly what you are saying. Congratulations on your 25th and thank you for sharing and being the amazing loyal reader you are! All my best, Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear Laurie,

Thank you for your welcome back! Lots of projects that I have been working on have taken me from my blog, but I don’t plan to be away that long again.

First love needs to be self love. I believe this is exactly what you are saying. Congratulations on your 25th and thank you for sharing and being the amazing loyal reader you are!

All my best,
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

]]> By: Laurie http://docinthebiz.com/blog/lucky-or-unlucky-in-love/#comment-12893 Laurie Tue, 14 Apr 2009 02:54:20 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=95#comment-12893 I believe one of the biggest problems with love is doing the "Jerry McGuire" thing and believing our significant other is supposed to complete us. We need to be complete on our own. I just celebrated my 25th anniversary. It is a huge deal. We have been through many really difficult times that most couples would have bailed out on. But we hung in there and worked on ourselves. ME? I really worked hard on being the best me I could be, living with passion and authenticity. It was when I took better care of myself that things with the hub made huge progress. I stopped looking at the hub to complete me and looked at myself. After that, I could enjoy him for who he is and things were so much better. SO if you think things are falling apart, there is hope but you have to be willing to work on yourself first. Missed you Doc. Glad you are back! :o) I believe one of the biggest problems with love is doing the “Jerry McGuire” thing and believing our significant other is supposed to complete us. We need to be complete on our own.

I just celebrated my 25th anniversary. It is a huge deal. We have been through many really difficult times that most couples would have bailed out on. But we hung in there and worked on ourselves. ME? I really worked hard on being the best me I could be, living with passion and authenticity. It was when I took better care of myself that things with the hub made huge progress. I stopped looking at the hub to complete me and looked at myself. After that, I could enjoy him for who he is and things were so much better. SO if you think things are falling apart, there is hope but you have to be willing to work on yourself first.

Missed you Doc. Glad you are back! :o)

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