Recipe For an Emotionally Healthy and Happy Relationship

15 May

Posted by: admin in: Attitude, Emotional Health, Love, Relationships

By KC Kelly, Ph.D., LMHC

Everyone will probably have a different recipe for what ingredients they feel need to be added into the pot to make an emotionally healthy and happy relationship. Please keep in mind that no relationship will ever be perfect, so I would not advise to expect every single ingredient to be present, however, here I will share My Recipe For an Emotionally Healthy and Happy Relationship:

A great deal of unconditional love (defined as you wish)
Masses of true friendship
Plenty of trust
A plethora of respect
Heaps of open communication and times to just sit and talk
Bountiful amounts of physical intimacy
An abundance of fun, play, and laughter
Tons of compromising or give and take
A plethora of understanding
A satisfactory amount of common morals and values
And ample amount of fighting fairly and never below the belt or playing tit for tat
Lots of compassion and understanding
Plenty of support of the other’s interests/hobbies (even if they are not yours)
Enough time apart to miss each other
Loads of working together as a team to make decisions
A copious amount of not thinking you can read each other’s minds

So, that’s my Recipe for an Emotionally Healthy and Happy Relationship.
What is yours?

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15|May|2008 1

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Dr Roger
15|May|2008 2

Hi Doc,
You sure hit some important points that most people do not think about.
Yes, love, companionship, trust, emotional and physical intimacy are all very important. However, I think RESPECT and SUPPORT are among the most essential elements to any healthy relationship. As a matter of fact, I do not think without support of each others dreams, business or employment issues, hobbies and other interests, and a true respect of your partners values and accomplishments there can be a truly successful relationship. I like to guide the couples in my practice to appreciation each other rather than putting their full concentrating in defining the word love. Love is so many things, but truly, success is built with the components of your recipe. Thanks, Doc.
Benny Greenberg
15|May|2008 3

Whispers… and a teaspoon of sugar…

That is a great list…

A few sprigs of acceptance

A heaping container of trust and of course

You needed a container full of Ya-ttitude

Benny
http://www.ya-ttitude.com
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16|May|2008 4

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Matt
16|May|2008 5

Thanks for the article, it’s really good and helpful…
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rob
16|May|2008 6

KC- very helpful information. thanks for posting and alerting me to your valuable blog. i look forward to reading more.
Dr. KC
16|May|2008 7

Dear Dr. Roger,

I couldn’t agree with you more and it’s a pleasure to get such great insight from another professional in the field. I thank you for your response.

I think the bottom line for a healthy relationship is mutual respect for one another, even if you don’t necessarily agree with what your partner is trying to accomplish. If it is something detrimental to the relationship, of course there should be discussion, but otherwise, a healthy relationship involves mutual understanding that two lives become one without losing individual identity.

If one partner doesn’t like what the other is doing, he/she does not have to support it, per say, but definitely not put it down or dissuade his/her partner from trying to accomplish what they desire. I take a huge leap here to ask if you or anyone else reading this thinks that may be taking too much of a “G-d like role” in someone else’s life?

Thank you so much for your great insight and please keep reading and posting.
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
Dr. KC
16|May|2008 8

Dear Benny,

I’m glad you enjoyed my list and I also appreciated what you added as well. Acceptance is also a great attribute to add to a healthy relationship!

Thanks for your comment and please keep reading and posting!
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
Dr. KC
16|May|2008 9

Dear Matt,

It’s my pleasure to bring information to you and everyone else! I hope that you continue to read, enjoy and comment on my content!

Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
Dr. KC
16|May|2008 10

Dear Rob,

Please come back anytime, read, enjoy and post your comments on my articles. It’s my pleasure to be able to share my knowledge with others and have them respond back to share with my readers and me!

Thanks for you comment!
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
axecity
16|May|2008 11

It’s really confusing when it comes to trust and jealousy in an intimate relationship, and when you can say that jealousy turned to untrust.

Thanks for the nice post!
Dr. KC
16|May|2008 12

Dear Axecity,

No one said that relationships are easy. In fact, the realism is that every single one takes work and commitment to making it work. If you have the foundation of love and friendship, everything else should be able to work itself out if both parties involved are willing to expend the energy into making it work.

When you talk of trust and jealousy, you bring up a whole other subject. And a very important one at that. Jealousy seems to stem from a lack of trust (due to insecurities, past infidelities, etc.), and as far as my recipe for success goes, trust is amazingly important. I feel as if you have someone you can 100% trust, you are way ahead in the relationship game.

Trust is huge ingredient in the recipe for an emotionally happy and healthy relationship. If you are lucky enough to trust your partner, you should see that as a great sign for success, no matter what else may need work.

Thank you for your comment. Please keep reading and posting!
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
Laurie
19|Jun|2008 13

I think that relationships also needs a heaping helping of differentiation to be healthy. We need to be able to be an individual while being a couple. Being fused is not good. I think it leads on walking on egg shells and feeling responsible for the other person’s happiness, feeling like you have to prop the other person up. Differentiation lets you have the freedom to be who you are and still be a part of a couple. It’s what I strive for in my marrige along with the other things in your recipe. I think the finished product will taste so sweet! :O)
Doc KC
19|Jun|2008 14

Dear Laurie,

I couldn’t agree with you more! Being a couple while keeping your individuality, in my opinion, is an ingredient that is a MUST in any relationship. Thank you so much for your comment!

Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com
elizabeth
20|Jun|2008 15

Hello,
Do we all get to that wall at times? I fear I am not alone!
No one told me how difficult a quality relationship is to find and then to maintain. How do we find one’s true character without wasting so much time that so often leads to disappointment? As we age, it seems to me that people become wonderful actors and show there best and not real side when a relationship begins. Deception gets you nowhere for sure.
Do I sound disillusioned? Guess I do, and I am.
Doc KC
20|Jun|2008 16

Dear Elizabeth,

There is no way of knowing, unfortunately, what we are going to get down the line when we fall in love. Love at first, to me, is full of lustful longing and great friendship and in the best cases grows with time. When we learn about the negative qualities a person possesses as our relationship continues, real unconditional love is what makes it live and last. In other words, we love because not despite these faults and learn to compromise with what is not 100% desirable to us. There may be other opinions and I would love to hear them. You are not disillusioned, you just have not found the right person for you yet. Have faith and you will!

Thank you for your comment.

Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com
elizabeth
20|Jun|2008 17

I had to tell you that I hung on every word you wrote in response to my comment. The person that you love and who loves you is indeed a very special and lucky person. What a great outlook you have. You really keep me going. I just love your site. You have made me learn and grow and I thank you so much.
Liz
Doc KC
20|Jun|2008 18

Dear Liz,

Thank you very much for your comment. I am really glad that I help you to learn and grow. That’s what life is all about. Stay positive, happy, and healthy!

All my best,

Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com
Sunny
23|Jul|2008 19

Great article Dr. KC! Our readers can definitely benefit from this piece. Please let me know if you are interested in becoming an expert on our site helping our members with their relationship issues. You have my invitation.

Regards,
Sunny
Dr. KC
23|Jul|2008 20

Dear Sunny,

Thank you for your complimentary comment. I appreciate it very much.
Thank you for your invitation as well. We will have to talk about this further in a more private way. I will email you.

Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com
june
26|Jul|2008 21

Dr. KC - I experienced an upsetting incident today and decided to see if you addressed this in any way. I ended up reading mostly all of your articles and felt so much better after I did. It worked. Thank you. J
Dr. KC
26|Jul|2008 22

Dear June,

I am thrilled that the information I provide here at DOCintheBiz was able to help you! I appreciate the support and welcome your comments any time!

Thank you so much!

Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com
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