03 Aug
Posted by: admin in: Attitude, Goal Setting, Hope, Mental/Emotional Health, Priorities, Self Worth/Self Esteem
by KC Kelly, Ph.D., LMHC
What is Truly Important for Today? As an addendum to the previous article I wrote, Hope for a Bright Future During These Economically Hard Times, I write this article in an attempt to look at the whole suggestion of keeping hope, staying positive, and looking towards a brighter future in a different light. Instead of just staying up about a bright FUTURE, let’s take a look at what we have in the HERE and NOW and be thankful for that. Let’s realize what our priorities are or probably should be TODAY. If you’d like to do that, please continue reading.
These are indeed some hard times our country is going through; however, we’ve seen hard times before. In fact we have seen must worse times than what we are going through now, economically, and most of us came out alright. Most of us have been through a stock market crash and have lost everything. We’ve been through war and lost more. We’ve been through 911 and…well…you know what we lost. That gives me hope that we will all come out alright during this time of economic hardship. But let’s reframe this whole idea.
Perhaps if we look at our economic crisis as a “challenging” time instead of a “hard” time, we may gain a different perspective. Every challenge, obstacle, hurdle, or impediment that is put in front of us may be a test to find out what we truly want in life, what is truly important to us, and what our priorities truly are. If you follow my lead here, I am suggesting that we NEED to know what is truly important to us. What are our values? What are our priorities?
Are they the people in our lives who give us unconditional love and support, perhaps? Our inner strength, perhaps? Our good health, perhaps? Our ability to reach a place of peace within ourselves, perhaps? Everything else will come after that. If we can be strong internally for ourselves, we can be strong for others in our lives and all the situations that act as blockages to a great future. Life CAN be about the future, and realistically, it should be partly about planning intelligently for what is to come in life; however, let’s not take our eye off of today and what is important NOW.
Every challenging time should be viewed as a learning and growing experience brought to us to help us be more prepared for what’s to come “tomorrow,” not as a deterrent from our life’s plan or vision of what we truly want in life. Now, as you’ve been reading article after article that I have written, you know by now how positive I am of a GREAT tomorrow for all of us, but I couldn’t resist this quote. It’s a song by the wonderful Garth Brooks, “If Tomorrow Never Comes”…let’s make sure we enjoy today!
Thank you for reading and please, if you desire one on one help to get you through the hard times…or you need just a little push to hope…write to us here…at DOCintheBiz.
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30 Responses
Dr. Roger
03|Aug|2008 1Doc,
What a great post for all of those who think Dooms Day is coming. Yes, we have been through hard times as a country and as individuals, but we ALWAYS come out the other side where the sun is shining.
I like your posts so much and I see such value, that I am recommending my clients to go to Docinthebiz and read.
Thanks for your foresight and insight!
Roger
sensitive Jane
03|Aug|2008 2Hi Dr.
I am a worrier. Big time. I worry about things I can control and things I cannot control. I am working hard on developing a positive attitude for myself so that I can overcome my fears and lessen my worries.
This post has helped me so much. You open my eyes to a brighter future and happier days. I am thankful that tomorrow WILL come.
Jane
Dr. KC
03|Aug|2008 3Dear Sensitive Jane,
Yes, “tomorrow WILL come” as you wrote, whether we worry or not. It is indeed much easier to say than to do, but as we learn strategies that work for us to help replace worry with positive thoughts we can live more peaceful existences. It takes work, but it’s worth it. You’re worth it.
Thank you for your comment.
Dr. KC
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Dr. KC
03|Aug|2008 4Dear Dr. Roger,
Thank you for your very positive and kind comment. Many people have fears of tomorrow and everyone has the choice to live with the fear or learn how to life for the good in the world. It’s often an internal battle people have within themselves, but I’m not sure what good it does to live with constant worry of “Dooms Day” coming. Again, it’s a choice and an attitude. Be aware of what’s out there, but do not let it ruin TODAY and hope for a good tomorrow.
Dr. KC
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Lim Ee Hai
04|Aug|2008 6We wake up everyday thinking of what to achieve or simply what to do. If this 24 hours of our TODAY, is make use of meaningfully, it can really make an impact on us. Having an attitude to improve is a practice that we cannot deny ourself.
Utlimately we are the one who will gain or lose depending on what we do TODAY. What we do TODAY can accumulate for tomorrow, and if this goes on, we can say a big WOOOW! later on for our success.
Dr. KC
04|Aug|2008 7Dear Lim Ee Hai,
It’s all a matter of our attitude, indeed. If we can learn to treat each day as a new day to accomplish great things, we will be well on our way to a great life and future. I love your positive way of looking at life and I wish more people would view things this way!
I wish you all the best and thank you so much for your comment.
Dr. KC
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raven hawk
05|Aug|2008 8This was a perfect article to read today… yesterday I went to the Lake, a place I really LOOK at myself and see what I can change, what is good…. what traits I do not like…..
I have been able to say I LOVE MYSELF…. I am just working on that I LIKE myself….. the statements are different…. to like oneself to me it deals with behavior…. and i am willing. (WILLING IS IMPORTANT HERE) to change that behavior….
To really look at yourself HONESTLY, to say i do this or that and WANT to change it is a good thing…… i do NOT judge myself for the behavior it just is (ok, sometimes i do), yet i am learning NOT to judge it…. i am learning to change …..
Inner peace is important and for me, to change those traits i do not like, will provide that for me….. to be able to give unconditional love…. for me one must like AND love themselves to do that….. no one is perfect.. i will never be…. yet i can be in a state of AWARENESS….. to learn what i am doing and not to judge it…. yet i can have the option to CHANGE IT…
It is true these times are messy….. there is a lot going on…. for me i call it the earth changes based on my spiritual path…. a lot more will happen.. our weather is changing…. people are getting more angry as they are losing jobs, their health is not good….. these time are not the greatest as KC states…. YET YOU DO NOT HAVE TO TAKE it on…. it is not easy…. one must protect themselves from all the negativity and not get trappped in it….. i do at times…… again i am not perfect….. yet my awareness of it at least allows for me to do something about it…..
if i am NOT aware of it, someone brings it to my attention…. it is NOT always easy to hear…..at all…… like today, i am very introspective… i was lucky i was able to call on someone to come over and talk…. we talked about what was going on…. that we are not perfect in this not so perfect world… what we have though is the ability to change ourselves so that what is around us does not affect us so much…. and to like ourselves isn’t such a bad idea either….
i hope this is not scrambled as my brain is still processing what happened yesterday….
THANK YOU KC for the blog…. thank you for being you….. for bringing light to people, by saying that i mean to bring awareness to people….
You have great insight…… i have always appreciated that….
This is A SAFE place to comment about your life FOR THERE IS NO JUDGEMENT HERE….. the real thing is NOT TO JUDGE YOURSELF … to just say it is…. and hopefully do something about it…..
Again i can not say it enough how grateful i am to be able to come to a place like this and express my thoughts…. with depression etc….. it is good to be able to do that….. medications are great in that they give us an opportunity to be stable, then we can really look at ourselves…. not saying we do not have those days, for it is one for me….. not down the rabbit hole, just not dancing for joy…… i am however, in contemplation which is good……
KC…… THANK YOU FOR YOUR HEART……. it is so unconditional…. so giving…. that is what makes this a safe place to come to….
RH
Lance
05|Aug|2008 9I love this post! Today IS important. No matter what we have going on currently. Maybe it’s good, maybe it’s bad. Being present in the moment is about actively taking steps in some direction. Today. I agree it’s important to plan for the future, but I like also how you’ve framed the importance of “today”.
Sometimes, I think challenging times are good for us. They force us to sometime make decisions we might not otherwise make. I remember a time several years ago when the company I worked for went through a layoff. One gentleman I worked with was laid off. I felt really bad for him. But then I talked to him a couple of months later, and he said it was the best thing that ever happened to him. He had taken this as an opportunity to do something he really wanted to do, and his life was so much better because of that.
Do we have the courage to do something like this when things are good? I, for one, struggle with this.
Dr. KC
05|Aug|2008 10Dear Raven Hawk,
You really add so much to each and every post here. I want to thank you for that. I hope that readers really can take away as much as possible from reading your amazing insights and positive attitude towards healing, happiness, and loving/liking oneself.
I am honored to have such a loyal reader such as yourself!
Thank you again.
All my best,
Dr. KC
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Dr. KC
05|Aug|2008 11Dear Lance,
I understand the struggle of finding the courage to make changes when things are good. Perhaps you can reframe this idea. Maybe we do not have make changes when things are good. Or, it may be that we haven’t a choice. If in fact, we do not have a choice, then it was probably meant to be, and like your co-worker who was laid off, we may find the change (in good times or bad) was the best thing that could have happened.
You have a great attitude towards making the best of today and a realistic attitude about tomorrow. That is a wonderful combination.
Thank you so much for your comment!
All my best,
Dr. KC
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Laurie
06|Aug|2008 12The declining economy is a wonderful invitation to worry. But what is worry? Being anxious about things you cannot change? So if you cannot change “things” then why invest in the worry. You can plan, prepare, and problem solve instead. These are all things you have a choice in and can contribute some action to. Worry doesn’t give you any choice or action steps. It just gives you a headache.
When I worry, I will recognize it and let it fade away replacing it with thoughts I can take some action with. For example, Instead of worrying about the economy causing my new business to fold, I prepare to live with less money and also think of creative ways to market my product. I also know that God has promised to provide so I know I will not starve to death. My basic needs will be met.
Most of us have a cushy life when compared to other places in the world. What we consider to be really living a less than desirable lifestyle would be a lavish existence in other places. I feel blessed to live here even if times are “challenging”.
Dr. KC
06|Aug|2008 13Dear Laurie,
Worrying is the most useless expenditure of energy, but we still do it. Anxiety at least has some benefits in times when the mind or body may be telling us that something is not right as in fight or flight. But worry, I haven’t figured out the benefit of that yet. So, I have to agree with you entirely on your insightful comment.
You give a GREAT suggestion here as to how to handle worry and I’m so glad that it works for you!! Good for you and your wonderfully positive attitude. I hope others can learn from your words.
Thank you so much for your comment…fantastic as always!
Dr. KC
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Skye B.
07|Aug|2008 14Hi Doc,
Just wanted you to know that you have been nominated, and chosen to receive an award for your award winning blog. Just drop on by my place, and pick up your award….you well deserving of it. So when you get the chance, just drop by and see what I am talking about.
Thanks, Skye
Tom Rooney
09|Aug|2008 15Dr. KC,
I sorry to say, but we have become a society of naysayers where we dwell on the negative. The function of the 24hr news channels have turned into all doom all the time. Schadenfreude has become the new sport and we can’t get enough of personal disasters in reality TV. You can almost see a smile in the face of the nightly news anchors when the totals for foreclosures have risen to a new all time high. Bad news sells and there isn’t anything that can make us turn away when it’s being reported.
Taking the high ground here and being optimistic is not only needed, it’s the right thing to do. We have always been a country of doers, and strive to reach goals that may have been thought to be unattainable. Horatio Alger is the American story that immigrants hear and dream about in countries much worse off than ours. So a dose of reality with a sprinkle of history may be just what the doctor ordered.
This was a very good and timely post to force a reality check on all those that think their life is in a downward spiral. People need to evaluate where they are and take solace in the fact the there is someone worse off than themselves. Here something for anyone that thinks things are tough, go find someone that is worse off and help him/her. You might be surprised by helping someone else and not stewing in self pity may give you back more that you need. We love a good recovery story so why not one about our nation.
Thanks for the refreshing look at this economic problem.
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Tom Thorne
12|Aug|2008 17Agree! I have had a great experience over the past 7 months. I have made about 85% - 90% progress in overcoming a 40 year bout with migraine headaches. It took guts and a lot of experimentation. I also finally found a herbal remedy that works!
Jennifer
13|Aug|2008 18Great post Doc KC. We’ll make it through whatever tough time we are currently in or about to enter. Keeping our focus on what is truly important sure does help us make it through. That sure helps to keep things in perspective.
Reiki Chic
13|Aug|2008 19When I get down about things, I just always give thanks for what I do have! Try this moving meditation:
Start walking, breathe deeply in and out a few times. With every step you take give thanks for something in your life. After 20-30 steps I’ll bet you will saying “Thank you for the grass, thank you for the moon.”
We often forget to look at the glass half full and give thanks for the things, people and relationships that we do have. Everyone has lots of things in their to be thankful for, no matter how dismal things may seem. Most of that is an illusion of our own version of reality that we manufacture for ourselves. Get real and get really thankful and try the meditation above.
Blessings to you all!
frenz
14|Aug|2008 20what a great post,
truly we’re in hard time
but it doesn’t mean that
this world will be in doomed.
Laurie
14|Aug|2008 21Hey Doc! I made the big times!
http://tivate.com/interviews/interview-laurie-henry-innovative-teacher#comment-606
vlad
17|Aug|2008 22Good afternoon! I have the site http://www.healthofmylife.com , which is devoted to a theme of health, medicine, preparations and discoveries in the field of medicine. I would like to exchange links with your site. It might be not bad to see my link on the main page of your site, I’ll put your link to the main page also. If you are interested and agree with these conditions, write to me at vdoneman@gmail.com
Dr. KC
17|Aug|2008 23Dear Laurie,
Amazing accomplishment! Congratulations! It was wonderful to read that interview! I’m truly proud of you!
All my best,
Dr. KC
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Dr. KC
17|Aug|2008 24Dear Vlad,
It would be my pleasure to do a link exchange with you. I already have your link to your wonderful website on my blogroll.
I encourage anyone reading this to check out this website: http://www.healthofmylife.com.
It is FULL of incredible information on so many health related topics, medications and more!
Thank you for sharing this with my readers and me.
All my best,
Dr. KC
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Dr. KC
17|Aug|2008 25Dear Skye B.,
A most sincere thank you for acknowledging my blog in this way!
Dr. KC
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Dr. KC
17|Aug|2008 26Dear Frenz,
Thank you for your comment. I have to agree with you. Just because the world sees hard times, it does not mean that it is doomed. In fact, nothing ever has to be doomed unless we want it to be that way.
There will always be hard times that the world, as well as we will face. It is all in our attitude as to how we deal with it all.
Stay positive as you seem to be.
All my best,
Dr. KC
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Dr. KC
17|Aug|2008 27Dear Reiki Chic,
Thank you for sharing this meditation technique. I will certainly try it as I hope others will as well. It’s so easy to see the good if we choose to see it. Keeping negativity out of our lives and only positivity in it, is the key.
All my best,
Dr. KC
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Dr. KC
17|Aug|2008 28Dear Jennifer,
Yes, we will always make it through if that’s what we choose to do. It’s all in our attitude and our perseverance through what holds us back. Thank you so much for your comment.
All my best,
Dr. KC
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Dr. KC
17|Aug|2008 29Dear Tom Thorne,
I’m thrilled to hear of your successful progress in getting past (for the most part) your migraine headaches! The next 40 years will prove so much more comfortable! Congratulations!
Thank you for your comment! We always love to hear success stories here!
All my best,
Dr. KC
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http://www.GLCzone.com
Dr. KC
17|Aug|2008 30Dear Tom Rooney,
My pleasure to give a refreshing look, as you so kindly say, to our economic issues. We may have a society of “naysayers”; however, please keep in mind that not everyone is like that. We need to try to keep the positive people around us and in our lives and try to weed out what will bring us down. Staying positive is the key to success and happiness as I seem to mention all the time. Of course we want to know of the reality of the world and life, but constant naysayers do nothing for our self esteem, our growth, or our happiness.
Your comments here are very insightful. I hope you will continue to read and post with us. Thank you very much.
All my best,
Dr. KC
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