Comments on: What is Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), its Stigma, and is it Treatable? http://docinthebiz.com/blog/what-is-borderline-personality-disorder-bpd-its-stigma-and-is-it-treatable/ THINK WELL to FEEL WELL...It's All About Being Emotionally Healthy! Tue, 06 Jan 2009 03:41:39 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Dr. KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/what-is-borderline-personality-disorder-bpd-its-stigma-and-is-it-treatable/#comment-4681 Dr. KC Wed, 08 Oct 2008 16:36:57 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=66#comment-4681 Dear John Chan, It sounds to me as that you have concerns that are very common for someone with a variety of different possible disorders according to the DSM. These are issues of control. When feeling in control, life seems manageable, but when feeling out of control, things seem to get out of hand and hopeless. This is very common and you are not alone. It is very difficult for me to answer your very important questions here in this forum and I ask when people have these types of questions, they please visit me at <a href="http://www.docinthebiz.com/subscribe.html" rel="nofollow">DOCintheBiz</a> where we can talk more in depth about your issues. When I talk with people in this way, give very individualized attention and answers to meet the needs of each unique person. What you are asking is very valid and very important for you to understand and learn. I am here if you wish to take that step. Hopefully, you are pairing the help of your psychiatrist with that of a therapist. If not, please again, feel free to write to me at <a href="http://www.docinthebiz.com/subscribe.html" rel="nofollow">DOCintheBiz </a>and I would be happy to help you there. Thank you so much for writing in and sharing your very personal experiences. All my best, Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear John Chan,

It sounds to me as that you have concerns that are very common for someone with a variety of different possible disorders according to the DSM. These are issues of control. When feeling in control, life seems manageable, but when feeling out of control, things seem to get out of hand and hopeless. This is very common and you are not alone.

It is very difficult for me to answer your very important questions here in this forum and I ask when people have these types of questions, they please visit me at DOCintheBiz where we can talk more in depth about your issues. When I talk with people in this way, give very individualized attention and answers to meet the needs of each unique person. What you are asking is very valid and very important for you to understand and learn. I am here if you wish to take that step.

Hopefully, you are pairing the help of your psychiatrist with that of a therapist. If not, please again, feel free to write to me at DOCintheBiz and I would be happy to help you there.

Thank you so much for writing in and sharing your very personal experiences.

All my best,
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

]]> By: john chan http://docinthebiz.com/blog/what-is-borderline-personality-disorder-bpd-its-stigma-and-is-it-treatable/#comment-4508 john chan Mon, 06 Oct 2008 08:00:13 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=66#comment-4508 Recently I was diagnosed with BPD because I am a yoyo dieter. I can only work when I am thin (60kg - 70kg) but as soon as I put on weight (70kg - 90kg), I can no longer work. So, sometimes I am at work and sometimes I just stay at home with my parents although I am 35 years old. I have never had a girlfriend in my life and all my sexual encounters are with prostitutes. I have tried SSRIs but after 4 months I become manic and have to be hospitalised. As long as I don't take any medication, I never get manic so I don't have bipolar disorder. I have no friends and I spend most of my time helping my parents around the house. My highlight of the day is masturbating at home and I keep stacks and stacks of photographs of models cut out from magazines. I like women now but I liked men when I was between the ages of 14 and 25. I used to play musical instruments but I destroyed all of them whenever I get angry with life. So I have no musical instruments left. I am a very likeable person because I am incapable of losing my temper and shouting at people and I am also incapable of saying unkind things to other persons. I am a very soft and gentle person so people like me because they know I am incapable of hurting a fly. Howeve, because of my unsteady life, I am always short of money and I don't have any friends at all. My only solution to life is to diet. Whenever I eat nothing but fruit for days, I feel like I am in heaven. But as soon as I eat real food, I feel my life is meaningless. Whenever I weigh 50 kgs, I am the happiest person on the planet. My psychiatrist has adviced me to take SSRIs complemented with sodium valproate to prevent mania. I am afraid of medication because once I took the old types of anti-depressants (clomipramine), I had seizures and was hospitalised. I know dieting will solve all problems but that just leads to annorexia. My first question is - Is eating disorder part of BPD and what are the usual treatments for annorexia? My second question is - Why does starving myself allow myself to be sexually fulfilled? Recently I was diagnosed with BPD because I am a yoyo dieter. I can only work when I am thin (60kg - 70kg) but as soon as I put on weight (70kg - 90kg), I can no longer work. So, sometimes I am at work and sometimes I just stay at home with my parents although I am 35 years old. I have never had a girlfriend in my life and all my sexual encounters are with prostitutes. I have tried SSRIs but after 4 months I become manic and have to be hospitalised. As long as I don’t take any medication, I never get manic so I don’t have bipolar disorder. I have no friends and I spend most of my time helping my parents around the house. My highlight of the day is masturbating at home and I keep stacks and stacks of photographs of models cut out from magazines. I like women now but I liked men when I was between the ages of 14 and 25. I used to play musical instruments but I destroyed all of them whenever I get angry with life. So I have no musical instruments left. I am a very likeable person because I am incapable of losing my temper and shouting at people and I am also incapable of saying unkind things to other persons. I am a very soft and gentle person so people like me because they know I am incapable of hurting a fly. Howeve, because of my unsteady life, I am always short of money and I don’t have any friends at all. My only solution to life is to diet. Whenever I eat nothing but fruit for days, I feel like I am in heaven. But as soon as I eat real food, I feel my life is meaningless. Whenever I weigh 50 kgs, I am the happiest person on the planet. My psychiatrist has adviced me to take SSRIs complemented with sodium valproate to prevent mania. I am afraid of medication because once I took the old types of anti-depressants (clomipramine), I had seizures and was hospitalised. I know dieting will solve all problems but that just leads to annorexia. My first question is - Is eating disorder part of BPD and what are the usual treatments for annorexia? My second question is - Why does starving myself allow myself to be sexually fulfilled?

]]> By: Dr. KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/what-is-borderline-personality-disorder-bpd-its-stigma-and-is-it-treatable/#comment-1844 Dr. KC Wed, 27 Aug 2008 16:24:15 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=66#comment-1844 Dear Kate, Thank you so very much for this amazing comment you have taken the time to write here. The information you provided gives so much encouragement and hope to those who deal with BPD every day. I am excited for others to read your words and take them to heart! You seem to be a very kind and compassionate soul with lots to give. I hope you will continue to visit my blog and add your knowledge and insight. Thank you again. All my best, Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear Kate,

Thank you so very much for this amazing comment you have taken the time to write here.

The information you provided gives so much encouragement and hope to those who deal with BPD every day. I am excited for others to read your words and take them to heart! You seem to be a very kind and compassionate soul with lots to give. I hope you will continue to visit my blog and add your knowledge and insight.

Thank you again.
All my best,

Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

]]> By: kate http://docinthebiz.com/blog/what-is-borderline-personality-disorder-bpd-its-stigma-and-is-it-treatable/#comment-1832 kate Wed, 27 Aug 2008 09:24:10 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=66#comment-1832 Thanks for this great article. I want to add that there is a LOT of misinformation out there on the internet (some written by "professionals") about BPD. The #1 myth is that BPD is permanent, untreatable, and stable. It is not at all. Just because it's categorized in the "personality" disorders section, doesn't make it so. Long-term studies routinely show that the overwhelming majority of BPD patients do not meet the criteria for the disorder within a few years. The most difficult aspects for loved ones and healthcare providers - the "acting out" behaviors" are the first to go. The longer-term problems - the last to go - are the internal problems the sufferer has to deal with on their own: mood swings and identity issues. Myth #2 is that everyone with BPD is manipulative, abusive and toxic, (and conversely that anyone who is manipulative, abusive and toxic has BPD.) You see this on some of the email lists and message boards aimed at "BPD" spouses, significant others and family. The people who go there are ones who are typically dealing with abusive and toxic relationships and understandably gravitate to such "support" communities - but they give you the impression that everyone with BPD is the antichrist. Some people "diagnose" their spouses as having BPD exclusively based on whether they behave in an abusive, manipulative or controlling way - regardless of whether they even begin to meet the criteria for BPD, let alone have received any diagnosis. All of which just bolsters the stereotype that BPD = evil. And the same is true for mental health professionals. For a decade and a half I was *not* diagnosed with BPD - even though I blatantly fulfilled the criteria - because I did not engage in these "acting out" or hostile behaviors. The attitude was that if my behavior was more or less reasonable and I was sympathetic, I couldn't possibly have BPD. I often wonder if I would have gotten the diagnosis in a heartbeat if I had a mood disorder and was an unreasonable demanding jerk - even if I fulfilled NO other criteria. (BTW ultimately it was I who had to persuade my psychiatrist of the diagnosis, and not vice versa: which blows apart myth #3 - borderlines never admit they have it. Wrong. Most borderlines who read a non-demonizing account of BPD will recognize themselves, and even be relieved that there's a "name" for what they're going through). Myth #4 is that BPD is just bad behavior, not a "real" mental illness and people with BPD are just manipulating, exaggerating and not really suffering. The corrollary among mental health professionals is that if you can convince people with BPD to behave better and think more rationally, you've cured it. IMO that's like saying if you can convince depressed people to get out of bed and stop saying they're guilty you've cured the depression. Or if you can convince manics not to blow all their money or that they're not the messiah - then you've cured bipolar. If you do these things you've cured nothing - you've mitigated some of the damage and treated a couple of symptoms - but the suffering and illness still rage. It's a total misapprehension of what the illness is. Thanks for this great article. I want to add that there is a LOT of misinformation out there on the internet (some written by “professionals”) about BPD.

The #1 myth is that BPD is permanent, untreatable, and stable. It is not at all. Just because it’s categorized in the “personality” disorders section, doesn’t make it so. Long-term studies routinely show that the overwhelming majority of BPD patients do not meet the criteria for the disorder within a few years. The most difficult aspects for loved ones and healthcare providers - the “acting out” behaviors” are the first to go. The longer-term problems - the last to go - are the internal problems the sufferer has to deal with on their own: mood swings and identity issues.

Myth #2 is that everyone with BPD is manipulative, abusive and toxic, (and conversely that anyone who is manipulative, abusive and toxic has BPD.) You see this on some of the email lists and message boards aimed at “BPD” spouses, significant others and family. The people who go there are ones who are typically dealing with abusive and toxic relationships and understandably gravitate to such “support” communities - but they give you the impression that everyone with BPD is the antichrist. Some people “diagnose” their spouses as having BPD exclusively based on whether they behave in an abusive, manipulative or controlling way - regardless of whether they even begin to meet the criteria for BPD, let alone have received any diagnosis. All of which just bolsters the stereotype that BPD = evil.

And the same is true for mental health professionals. For a decade and a half I was *not* diagnosed with BPD - even though I blatantly fulfilled the criteria - because I did not engage in these “acting out” or hostile behaviors. The attitude was that if my behavior was more or less reasonable and I was sympathetic, I couldn’t possibly have BPD. I often wonder if I would have gotten the diagnosis in a heartbeat if I had a mood disorder and was an unreasonable demanding jerk - even if I fulfilled NO other criteria. (BTW ultimately it was I who had to persuade my psychiatrist of the diagnosis, and not vice versa: which blows apart myth #3 - borderlines never admit they have it. Wrong. Most borderlines who read a non-demonizing account of BPD will recognize themselves, and even be relieved that there’s a “name” for what they’re going through).

Myth #4 is that BPD is just bad behavior, not a “real” mental illness and people with BPD are just manipulating, exaggerating and not really suffering. The corrollary among mental health professionals is that if you can convince people with BPD to behave better and think more rationally, you’ve cured it. IMO that’s like saying if you can convince depressed people to get out of bed and stop saying they’re guilty you’ve cured the depression. Or if you can convince manics not to blow all their money or that they’re not the messiah - then you’ve cured bipolar. If you do these things you’ve cured nothing - you’ve mitigated some of the damage and treated a couple of symptoms - but the suffering and illness still rage. It’s a total misapprehension of what the illness is.

]]> By: Dr. KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/what-is-borderline-personality-disorder-bpd-its-stigma-and-is-it-treatable/#comment-1048 Dr. KC Fri, 18 Jul 2008 04:37:30 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=66#comment-1048 Dear Insan, I do appreciate your writing here on this article and I love the idea that you have a place to share your true feelings about life; however, this will have to be the last post of this sort that I will be able to share with my readers. What I like in my forum, is for people to be honest, of course, but also to share encouraging words with each other of hope and the idea that people can change, feel good, and live happy and healthy lives. Please understand that your feelings are OK and they are NOT wrong and I am not condemning them in the least, I just have the ethical responsibility to protect my readers, some of which have been upset by what they have been reading in your comments. Again, that does not diminish the passion I read in your words or make them “bad” or “wrong”. I hope you understand this and I have a feeling that you do. If you are wiling to give yourself a chance to change some of your thought patterns, ideas and views of the world….If you feel as though you could be a happier and more positive person…if you feel you would like to make some changes and you think making changes in your life are possible, I urge you to talk to someone who DOES care and WILL listen without judgment. I urge you to find someone, anyone. I can be that person for you. You will just need to click on this link, <a href="http://www.DOCintheBiz.com/subscribe.html" rel="nofollow">DOCintheBiz</a>, and write to me there. If you do decide to take that route, I can promise you can write openly and freely and I will respond each and every time with ways we can work together to change your life. It’s all up to you how you want to feel and live. Make a choice and make a good one! All my best, Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear Insan,

I do appreciate your writing here on this article and I love the idea that you have a place to share your true feelings about life; however, this will have to be the last post of this sort that I will be able to share with my readers.

What I like in my forum, is for people to be honest, of course, but also to share encouraging words with each other of hope and the idea that people can change, feel good, and live happy and healthy lives. Please understand that your feelings are OK and they are NOT wrong and I am not condemning them in the least, I just have the ethical responsibility to protect my readers, some of which have been upset by what they have been reading in your comments. Again, that does not diminish the passion I read in your words or make them “bad” or “wrong”. I hope you understand this and I have a feeling that you do.

If you are wiling to give yourself a chance to change some of your thought patterns, ideas and views of the world….If you feel as though you could be a happier and more positive person…if you feel you would like to make some changes and you think making changes in your life are possible, I urge you to talk to someone who DOES care and WILL listen without judgment. I urge you to find someone, anyone. I can be that person for you. You will just need to click on this link, DOCintheBiz, and write to me there. If you do decide to take that route, I can promise you can write openly and freely and I will respond each and every time with ways we can work together to change your life. It’s all up to you how you want to feel and live.

Make a choice and make a good one!

All my best,
Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

]]> By: insan mukmin http://docinthebiz.com/blog/what-is-borderline-personality-disorder-bpd-its-stigma-and-is-it-treatable/#comment-1032 insan mukmin Thu, 17 Jul 2008 10:16:12 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=66#comment-1032 Borderline personality is not a disease but a cure. God has created people with borderline personality to end wickedness and evil in this world. People with borderline personality give away all their personal belongings. They refuse to eat so that the poor and oppressed people in this world may have a chance to eat. People with borderline personality sacrifice their pleasure so that others may not suffer. People with borderline personality know who is responsible for evil in this world - the cruel leaders and their Generals and Police Chiefs. People with borderline personality are martyrs ready to sacrifice their life for the God they love. Piss off mankind. God is great! God is great! God is great! God is great! Martyrdom is the path to salvation and happiness. Only martyrdom will bring happiness and contentment. Borderline personality is not a disease but a cure. God has created people with borderline personality to end wickedness and evil in this world. People with borderline personality give away all their personal belongings. They refuse to eat so that the poor and oppressed people in this world may have a chance to eat. People with borderline personality sacrifice their pleasure so that others may not suffer. People with borderline personality know who is responsible for evil in this world - the cruel leaders and their Generals and Police Chiefs. People with borderline personality are martyrs ready to sacrifice their life for the God they love. Piss off mankind. God is great! God is great! God is great! God is great! Martyrdom is the path to salvation and happiness. Only martyrdom will bring happiness and contentment.

]]> By: Dr. KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/what-is-borderline-personality-disorder-bpd-its-stigma-and-is-it-treatable/#comment-950 Dr. KC Sun, 13 Jul 2008 18:51:59 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=66#comment-950 Dear Jodi Raven Hawk, I’m so happy to hear that you had such non-judgmental, wonderful doctors to work with who shared information with you and treated you with respect and dignity. It’s so wonderful that you did not feel alone! It sounds as if you have learned amazing coping skills to deal with symptoms or obstacles that get in your way of living your life to the fullest! We ALL have limitations in life, but it is how we deal with them that make all the difference. I love to hear that you choose life and your attitude SHINES through your words! Thank you so much for being a loyal part of this forum and for your inspirational and sincerely kind and appreciated comments! Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear Jodi Raven Hawk,

I’m so happy to hear that you had such non-judgmental, wonderful doctors to work with who shared information with you and treated you with respect and dignity. It’s so wonderful that you did not feel alone!

It sounds as if you have learned amazing coping skills to deal with symptoms or obstacles that get in your way of living your life to the fullest! We ALL have limitations in life, but it is how we deal with them that make all the difference. I love to hear that you choose life and your attitude SHINES through your words!

Thank you so much for being a loyal part of this forum and for your inspirational and sincerely kind and appreciated comments!

Dr. KC
http://www.DOCintheBiz.com
http://www.GLCzone.com

]]> By: Jodi Raven Hawk http://docinthebiz.com/blog/what-is-borderline-personality-disorder-bpd-its-stigma-and-is-it-treatable/#comment-949 Jodi Raven Hawk Sun, 13 Jul 2008 18:37:39 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=66#comment-949 This article is close to my heart. I was first diagnosed with Bi-polar disorder. It was for Social Security reasons only. The degree in which BPD are is vast. I was not only severly depressed, went through the whole ECT treatment etc, yet have a severe anxiety "problem". I was shocked when I found out how similar that Bi-polar and BPD are. It is the extreme behavior that makes the difference. When you look the diagnoses the axis is different, yet the symtoms are very similar. I was a bit blown out of the water on that one, yet it was good to know where I was standing. I was VERY BLESSED to have someone who did not put up a total doc/client wall and she was the one to pull out the book and show me the difference between the axis. She discussed some personal things with me also, appropriate to the situation at hand, to help me understand that I was NOT alone. For alone I felt. I saw this women for 7 years and miss her dearly as when I moved to another state their mental system I am afraid is rather poor. I was lucky to find a good medication doctor, yet my other "medication" doctor also seem to give me a session as well. She also called me on my stuff and help me realize sometimes I was using a bad way of trying to describe my feelings (ex: I would say I was suicidal when I just couldn't find the words to express how bad I was feeling). Perhaps using the word "bad" is not correct, however, she was wise, non-judgemental, and would give me that needed hug when I needed it. BPD made sense to me. More sense than the Bi-polar diagnoses. It didn't mean it wasn't severe, yet with proper medications and using CBT, it has helped me become more aware of what I am feeling, why I am feeling all these things. Spirit has helped me a great deal with all of this process. It has helped me, for others, it might not. Walking the path I walk is non-traditional for most. It is a way of life. A way of life that many might not understand (ex: like a bird being there for me - my totem- when I was on the brink of deciding whether to stay on this earth plane. This occurred during my Chantix days. That bird, hawk, is my medicine. It nested in an area that it would have never nested in normally. I would look forward to watching EVERYDAY the comings and goings of this wonderful creature, thus being grateful, thus remaining on this earth walk) I might have some limitations in life, HOWEVER, it does NOT mean I CAN NOT LIVE. I have found different ways to deal with this mental process that I have. I know what triggers me. I know how to calm myself. I know that my dreams still can come true. Having this is not the end of your life, at times it may seem so, yet it DOES pass. It really does pass. \ This is not who I totally am. I am an artist. I am a spritual person. I work for peace. I love the arts. I dislike to cook etc. This BPD is just a part of me. A part that is manage for the most part by medications. I just have some limitations as mentioned before, YET IT DOES NOT MEAN A PERSON CAN NOT FIND ALTERNATIVE WAYS OF LIVING. YOU CAN LIVE WELL AND BE HEALTHY. You can have a good outlook on life. You can choose what you want. Yes, chemicals do play a part in this. It is all in the balance of life. Without those chemicals, medications, I would not be balanced so in this world I CHOOSE LIFE and medications. Just like for most people there are good and bad times and I learn everyday new things about myself constantly. One sentence from a book has helped me a lot. When the "unconscious becomes conscious, you have the opportunity to change". A lot of BPD is from our past. Having the past in front of me, gives me an awareness that I do not want to behave in a certain manner. Again it all choice. KC. THIS SITE IS INCREDIBLE. I AM GRATEFUL FOR YOU INVITING ME HERE. IT IS A PLACE THAT PEOPLE CAN BE. A PLACE FOR PEOPLE NOT TO BE JUDGED. IT IS AN AWESOME PLACE OF INFORMATION AND DISCUSSION. I KNOW YOU HAVE PUT A TREMEDOUS AMOUNT OF WORK INTO THIS SITE AND AGAIN IT IS THAT INCREDIBLE HEART OF YOURS THAT ALLOWED YOU TO GO FORTH WITH IT. WHAT A BLESSING THIS SITE IS. WHAT A TRUE BLESSING. KC. I WILL NEVER EVER EVER BE ABLE TO EXPRESS THE GRATIDUE THAT OUR LIVES HAVE CROSSED. THE BLESSING I FEEL. THE WONDERFUL GIFT SPIRIT HAS GIVEN ME. This article is close to my heart. I was first diagnosed with Bi-polar disorder. It was for Social Security reasons only. The degree in which BPD are is vast. I was not only severly depressed, went through the whole ECT treatment etc, yet have a severe anxiety “problem”.

I was shocked when I found out how similar that Bi-polar and BPD are. It is the extreme behavior that makes the difference. When you look the diagnoses the axis is different, yet the symtoms are very similar. I was a bit blown out of the water on that one, yet it was good to know where I was standing.

I was VERY BLESSED to have someone who did not put up a total doc/client wall and she was the one to pull out the book and show me the difference between the axis. She discussed some personal things with me also, appropriate to the situation at hand, to help me understand that I was NOT alone. For alone I felt. I saw this women for 7 years and miss her dearly as when I moved to another state their mental system I am afraid is rather poor. I was lucky to find a good medication doctor, yet my other “medication” doctor also seem to give me a session as well. She also called me on my stuff and help me realize sometimes I was using a bad way of trying to describe my feelings (ex: I would say I was suicidal when I just couldn’t find the words to express how bad I was feeling). Perhaps using the word “bad” is not correct, however, she was wise, non-judgemental, and would give me that needed hug when I needed it.

BPD made sense to me. More sense than the Bi-polar diagnoses. It didn’t mean it wasn’t severe, yet with proper medications and using CBT, it has helped me become more aware of what I am feeling, why I am feeling all these things.

Spirit has helped me a great deal with all of this process. It has helped me, for others, it might not. Walking the path I walk is non-traditional for most. It is a way of life. A way of life that many might not understand (ex: like a bird being there for me - my totem- when I was on the brink of deciding whether to stay on this earth plane. This occurred during my Chantix days. That bird, hawk, is my medicine. It nested in an area that it would have never nested in normally. I would look forward to watching EVERYDAY the comings and goings of this wonderful creature, thus being grateful, thus remaining on this earth walk)

I might have some limitations in life, HOWEVER, it does NOT mean I CAN NOT LIVE. I have found different ways to deal with this mental process that I have. I know what triggers me. I know how to calm myself. I know that my dreams still can come true. Having this is not the end of your life, at times it may seem so, yet it DOES pass. It really does pass. \

This is not who I totally am. I am an artist. I am a spritual person. I work for peace. I love the arts. I dislike to cook etc. This BPD is just a part of me. A part that is manage for the most part by medications. I just have some limitations as mentioned before, YET IT DOES NOT MEAN A PERSON CAN NOT FIND ALTERNATIVE WAYS OF LIVING. YOU CAN LIVE WELL AND BE HEALTHY. You can have a good outlook on life. You can choose what you want. Yes, chemicals do play a part in this. It is all in the balance of life. Without those chemicals, medications, I would not be balanced so in this world I CHOOSE LIFE and medications. Just like for most people there are good and bad times and I learn everyday new things about myself constantly.

One sentence from a book has helped me a lot. When the “unconscious becomes conscious, you have the opportunity to change”. A lot of BPD is from our past. Having the past in front of me, gives me an awareness that I do not want to behave in a certain manner. Again it all choice.

KC. THIS SITE IS INCREDIBLE. I AM GRATEFUL FOR YOU INVITING ME HERE. IT IS A PLACE THAT PEOPLE CAN BE. A PLACE FOR PEOPLE NOT TO BE JUDGED. IT IS AN AWESOME PLACE OF INFORMATION AND DISCUSSION. I KNOW YOU HAVE PUT A TREMEDOUS AMOUNT OF WORK INTO THIS SITE AND AGAIN IT IS THAT INCREDIBLE HEART OF YOURS THAT ALLOWED YOU TO GO FORTH WITH IT. WHAT A BLESSING THIS SITE IS. WHAT A TRUE BLESSING.

KC. I WILL NEVER EVER EVER BE ABLE TO EXPRESS THE GRATIDUE THAT OUR LIVES HAVE CROSSED. THE BLESSING I FEEL. THE WONDERFUL GIFT SPIRIT HAS GIVEN ME.

]]> By: Dr. KC http://docinthebiz.com/blog/what-is-borderline-personality-disorder-bpd-its-stigma-and-is-it-treatable/#comment-938 Dr. KC Sun, 13 Jul 2008 16:46:00 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=66#comment-938 Dear Zephyr, Yes, indeed Insan is most likely feeling much pain and confusion. What you say is extremely true about having choices of how we want to view and live life. Sometimes it just takes time and understanding that there is a better world out there. Some people need a bit of tough love to get there and others need a bit more compassion. Hopefully, they will get what they need. I was a bit apprehensive to post a comment with profanity as I always want to make sure this stays as a safe forum at all times where people feel comfortable to come and write, however, I gave Insan a lot of credit for actually reaching out and expressing the feelings deep inside that cause such pain. It’s a start. And I knew that readers, such as you, Zephyr would write in so kindly as you did. You told the truth and gave great insight. Thank you for your comment. Dr. KC www.DOCintheBiz.com www.GLCzone.com Dear Zephyr,

Yes, indeed Insan is most likely feeling much pain and confusion. What you say is extremely true about having choices of how we want to view and live life. Sometimes it just takes time and understanding that there is a better world out there. Some people need a bit of tough love to get there and others need a bit more compassion. Hopefully, they will get what they need.

I was a bit apprehensive to post a comment with profanity as I always want to make sure this stays as a safe forum at all times where people feel comfortable to come and write, however, I gave Insan a lot of credit for actually reaching out and expressing the feelings deep inside that cause such pain. It’s a start. And I knew that readers, such as you, Zephyr would write in so kindly as you did. You told the truth and gave great insight.

Thank you for your comment.

Dr. KC
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]]> By: zephyr http://docinthebiz.com/blog/what-is-borderline-personality-disorder-bpd-its-stigma-and-is-it-treatable/#comment-934 zephyr Sun, 13 Jul 2008 14:14:12 +0000 http://docinthebiz.com/blog/?p=66#comment-934 Okay Insan on one level you're right - it's a dog eat dog world. Some people can cope with it - we call them autonomous. Some people think others are still worth saving. We call them heroes. Some people still find life to be fascinating and worthwhile - perhaps they're saints. So be right - choose Nothingness. Zero. Because that's it - death is NOthing. NO mankind ? Fine for you - that way there'll be no one around to know there's a difference between the living and the dead. Because I bet you feel really dead on the inside. However, for me one thing is clear: You'll never find a caring soul if you only way of communicating is to throw the chip on your shoulder into everyone's face. I don't know what else you're on, but you're drugging yourself with hatred. But funny thing is, all I can see is a whole lot of pain... Okay Insan on one level you’re right - it’s a dog eat dog world. Some people can cope with it - we call them autonomous. Some people think others are still worth saving. We call them heroes. Some people still find life to be fascinating and worthwhile - perhaps they’re saints.
So be right - choose Nothingness. Zero. Because that’s it - death is NOthing.
NO mankind ? Fine for you - that way there’ll be no one around to know there’s a difference between the living and the dead. Because I bet you feel really dead on the inside.
However, for me one thing is clear: You’ll never find a caring soul if you only way of communicating is to throw the chip on your shoulder into everyone’s face.
I don’t know what else you’re on, but you’re drugging yourself with hatred.
But funny thing is, all I can see is a whole lot of pain…

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