8 Responses

1. Kevin Summers

   21|Apr|2008 1

   This is such good information. I am working so hard to put checks and balances on myself so that I may raise the bar and achieve a greater sense of self worth. This is what I need to be happier and lessen my stress level. thanks so much!

2. Dr. KC

   22|Apr|2008 2

   Dear Kevin,
   It sounds as if you’re doing great work to reaching your goals and obtaining a happy life for yourself. Keep up the good work!
   Thanks for you comment. Keep reading!
   Dr. KC
   http://www.DOCintheBiz.com

3. Hildy

   23|Apr|2008 3

   This is a much needed online service and you’re advice is very professional and on target.

4. T-roy

   24|Apr|2008 4

   Dr KC,
   Blessings to you once again! I agree with your concept completely. The question I do have is, where would you say the extrinsic factor plays a role (if any) with this concept. As I look at todays society I find it challenging (as a youth director) to instill this concept you mentioned in the minds of the youth I serve, when society calls them problem children and trouble makers. Now, understand, although I find it hard, I don’t give up tring. I feel everyone deserves a chance to have someone believe in them as they seek to find strength to believe in themself.

   I worked security at a mall for two years and the images that our youth have to compete with are disturbing. Models in magazines that don’t even look like they do in real life to machoism men such as in the movie 300. And yet…each week I tell my youth you set goals and dreams for their self and seek to believe and strive for what they want despite what media, movies and certain people will say they should or shouldn’t do.

   I’m excited to hear your thought on this! I’ll be in touch soon.

5. Dr. KC

   24|Apr|2008 5

   Dear Hildy,

   Thank you so much for your kind words. I’m very glad that you are learning and growing from visiting DOCintheBiz.com!

   Keep reading!

   Dr. KC
   http://www.DOCintheBiz.com

6. Dr. KC

   24|Apr|2008 6

   Dear T-roy,

   First of all, the children you worked with are blessed to have you as their counselor. I see you as someone who is constantly trying to learn and gain knowledge from where ever you can, not only for your own good, but to help others as well! Kudos to you!

   When working with any children, including underprivileged children, which was my job for MANY years, it is often a challenge to teach them what is socially acceptable, to do “the right things” and “stay on the right path to be a successful and happy adult.” Unfortunately, most times, I found that what I taught them was unlearned when they re-enter their community and their homes. This is probably the most important “extrinsic factor” I am talking about in the original post. We, as counselors do the very best we can to teach children right from wrong, but ultimately the fate of our learners is out of our hands and more in the hands of society, the media, and the culture in which they live and are brought up.

   When you teach other children or your own children, you do the very best you can to put them on the path to a good life and eventually, you have to trust the work you’ve done and let them off into the world, while hoping for the best. That is not meant to sound flip. It is the realistic world we live in and if we trust ourselves, we hope to trust our children.

   The work you are doing is truly commendable and I KNOW you are making a difference each and every day.

   Thank you for your comment.
   Keep reading!

   Dr. KC

   http://www.DOCintheBiz.com

7. Tina

   05|May|2008 7

   KC, I am so proud of what you are doing with your profession in counseling. You are an amazing mentor and those who are lucky enough to be in your care will without a doubt come out a much healthier and happier human being.

   I am honored to have you as a friend. I only hope that one day we can meet in person. Wishing you continued success in your counseling.

   Much love and respect,
   Tina

8. Dr. KC

   05|May|2008 8

   Dear Tina,

   Thank you so much for your kind comment. It’s a true honor to be referred to as a mentor and I appreciate that and the other sentiments more than you know!

   I wish you all the success in the world as well.
   Please keep reading and sending in your thoughts. You have so much to offer the readers here!
   Dr. KC
   http://www.DOCintheBiz.com